Shouldering pain

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Seriously who doesn’t have shoulder pain?

I look at school kids these days walking like turtles with their poor little growing spines carrying more and more every year…I thought laptops/ iPads were meant to ease the load of school books, never mind all their school issues and puberty stages to add to that load

Toddlers, shopping bags, handbags, laptop bags, they are all either on one shoulder or both of them. Then add some work stress, family commitments, deadlines, school fees, an old tennis shoulder injury, and some financial stress, and we have some real weight on those shoulders to carry!

It is no wonder your shoulders are hunched over and feeling heavy with the weight of the world sitting on them.

Physical pain is the body telling you quietly that there are some stuff you have going on that you’re not quite dealing with. Now how loud that little voice is will really depend on how long you leave those little things void.

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Pain in the shoulders can relate to a few things:

  • weight of the world
  • holding onto too much strain, stress, worry
  • feeling insecure, unsure, overwhelmed, sad, rejected, distrustful, and discouraged
  • droopy shoulders – lack of fun and joy
  • seriousness
  • focus on problems not solutions
  • accumulated anger creates chronic tension in the shoulders, neck and arms

To be honest I think we all carry way too much on our shoulders. It’s time to shrug the weight off and free yourself from the heaviness your bear down on your body – physically, mentally, and emotionally.

I see the weight on people’s shoulders in yoga class. I see it in the children who are carrying our futures problems. I see the sadness in our forgotten older generations that a society has pushed aside. I see it in the posture of abandoned animals. I see it in the broken bodies of office workers who slouch all day over technology and a cyber world that is slowly killing their spirit. I see it in the body language of depressed people as they walk around. I see it in my own body language when I get frustrated and communicate by shrugging my shoulders rather than communicating.

Oh boy does our body speak for us in communicating to others what is really going on with us. Just paying a little attention to someones posture and body language will reveal a lot.

Begin with deep breathing to begin to loosen tension in the body. Visualize those heavy weights you carry begin to fall off like nothing, and feel the softness and warmth return to the shoulders. roll them around, roll your neck and release that rigidity in those areas. A stiff, sore neck usually means refusing to see the other person’s perspective, stuck in your ways, withholding statements.

Release fear, anger, stress, and worry, and install peace, calm, relaxation, patience, support, and compassion.

Stand tall, stand proud and stand confident. Those who have tall posture and strong shoulders are also less likely to be attacked and victimized. This was mentioned by criminals who were interviewed on how they looked for their victims, by assessing their posture, arm movement and level of awareness.

Want to know more about the yin and yang side of the shoulder? Take a read of Does Your Body Lie?

Hips don’t lie…seriously!

Let’s face it, after teenagehood and entering into the adult world, it is almost a given that tight hips are a way of life.

There are the few exceptions from the rule but most of us including myself struggle with that stiffness around the pelvic region, and it’s deeper than tight hip flexors and psoas muscle, which mind you is known as the muscle of the soul.

You could say it’s a mixed bag of things with not stretching enough as our bodies grow, sitting all day, running too much, wearing heels, bone structure, the list can go on, but one thing to add here is the element of EMOTIONS.

Our hips are one of the greatest emotional storage containers in our bodies and we can store some of our deepest vulnerabilities in them. We store memories, emotional pain and energy from our partners current and past, and childhood trauma in the fascia (connective tissue).

What tight hips can also mean:

  • Fearing the future – living up to our own expectations (front of hips)
  • Fear of relationships – romantic and work
  • Emotional and physical trauma – childbirth
  • Chakra imbalance (sacral) – connected to sexuality, desires, pleasure and procreation. Ability to let go
  • Inability to love yourself – to be fully open
  • Holding onto the past – back of the hips (lower back/ glutes)

Through my own experience of hip pain and having to go through surgery to heal the physical damage, the real healing and opening of my hips came through many hours of breath work, specific yoga postures (tree pose [pic above], pigeon pose, low lunge, spinal twists, dancers pose) and releasing my energetic blocks through healing work. I can assure you it wasn’t an overnight job, but I got back to walking and running free of hip pain, and back to competing at higher levels.

Learning to be OK with the tightness is in itself a way of healing as you become mindful and free of judgement and expectation on where you are and where you want to be.

The hips are also connected to the brain via the central nervous system, so what you think and believe in carries on into those areas.

Yoga + breath + mindfulness = happy hips 🙂

Who’s accountable?

“It’s her fault, she made me angry and I lashed out!”  Ummm, well actually this is not completely true and would you hate me if I told you that it was YOU that made YOU lash out?

She only made you become aware of the anger that was already residing within you and her words/actions hit your “angry pain” button.

Yes it’s true, no one else can make you feel a certain way except for you as an individual. We can get mad about people disrespecting us, taking us for granted, and ignoring us, but we can only change how we react to them, not in how they choose to treat us. A little bit like “don’t let your happiness be controlled by something you can’t control.”

What is within us can only come to light, just like orange juice can only come from the inside of an orange and not apple or pineapple juice.  No one can pass on anger to us like a baton or a side dish, it is something that is hiding deep within that gets triggered by a memory in our brain and in our body’s cells.

Taking responsibility for your emotions is one of the most empowering things you can ever do. You take power back from the emotion/s and own the way you feel. You become present to how you are feeling and realize that those emotions are yours and they can be changed through conscious awareness.

You can also heal these emotions as you bring awareness to them within the body. As we know emotions are energy that can become trapped in the body if they are not processed at the time they are felt.

It is quite easy to pass responsibility for how we feel and for the state we are in mentally, emotionally and physically. As grown adults we are aware that we can change our internal and external environments through our choices,and if you are not, well I guess you just became aware!

Now responsibility goes beyond juts owning your emotions. It is about accepting that you are at this point in your life through your own decisions, level of work and your belief systems.

The type of relationships you create in your life are through your conscious and unconscious decisions.

The level of happiness in your life is a conscious choice of how you see yourself.

The type of environment you live in is a reflection of your choices on what you like to be around.

Your health status is all about what your lifestyle choices.

Your travels are through your conscious choices to pick those destinations.

Taking accountability and responsibility for your life gives you the driver seat in which way you take direction. It stops others from controlling you on various levels; financially,emotionally, mentally and in career.

Take back your power, empower yourself to becoming who you desire to be, create your dreams and goals into reality and account yourself for making those things happen.

Blaming others can almost be labelled immature. This is what growing up into becoming a responsible adult really means and not just a legal right to buy alcohol and drive because you’re over 18.

The choice is yours.

 

How to get through the Ascension

After last week’s blog many of you got in touch and let me know that you were experiencing some and all of the ascension symptoms I had mentioned.

I was taken aback by some of your experiences and positive responses, and it was great to be able to go deeper with you all in talking about this collective conscious shift. Funnily enough as synchronicity will have it, unpacking my boxes last week I saw  The Ascension Mysteries by David Wilcock that I had purchased right before I left the UK to read once I got back to Australia. Timing couldn’t have been better.

So, it only makes sense to continue on this week with some tips to help you get through this ascension transition, or anyone else you may know of that will benefit from this information.

A site I found quite helpful in my research was AscensionSymptoms. It has a further detailed list of symptoms, what can cause them, and some YouTube links helping explain ascension further.

A small list of what you can do whilst your upgrade is happening:

  • Spend time in nature – DAILY with walks in the park, beach, nature hikes, barefoot on grass
  • Let go –  old thought patterns, emotions, negative beliefs. Some modalities that help  EFT, TEC, energy work/healing, life coaching, sound healing, affirmations.
  • Meditate – best time is in the morning after rising. You can also you guided meditations online.
  • Breathe deeply & Mindfulness (staying present) – connecting the breath with conscious inhalation & exhalation.  Helps clear the energy channels (nadis) in the body and helps controls the mind. By doing this you stay present in he NOW.
  • Salt baths/ Himalayan salt lamps – you can also sprinkle salt on your doorway entrances to keep negativity out of your house/flat/room. Leave for a day or two then hoover.
  • Avoid Fluoride – it calcifies your pineal gland which is key to using your higher senses and intuition. It also has many side effects on your health.
  • Essential Oils – frankincense, lavender, rose
  • Ask –  for guidance, protection and an uplift of your energy in challenging times. 

Take some time on your own to really connect with YOU, to listen to inner changes that may be happening and feel what your body needs during this period.

If you have any questions about changes that are happening with you, send me an email, would love to help!

De-press-your-mind

Depression.

Yes, it’s real. And if you haven’t suffered from it, then you will know of someone who has/is.

Whilst there is a movement to see depression be recognized within our society as a mental health issue, as well as a leading cause for suicide in our youth, our men, and PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) sufferers, it’s still under that taboo “don’t talk about it” banner.

Why do I say this?

Because last week on the way home from finishing a fitness class, I encountered 2 road blocks. One was a car accident that held up traffic for over an hour, and the other, while traffic was held to a complete standstill, got no mention in the press the following day. Why? because it was a suicide jump.

This surely should have been reported, but you rarely here of suicides in the press unless it’s suicide bomber or terrorist related.

Firstly let’s understand what depression actually is.

Depression is a low mood that lasts for a long time, and affects your everyday life.

In its mildest form, depression can mean just being in low spirits. It doesn’t stop you leading your normal life but makes everything harder to do and seem less worthwhile. At its most severe, depression can be life-threatening because it can make you feel suicidal or simply give up the will to live.” – Mind

Now this is an explanation of what depression is from a clinical perspective. Let’s look at this a little deeper.

Our bodies are filled with billions and billions of cells, each one of them carrying DNA, ancestral emotions, trauma, thoughts and genes.

Our cells make up who we are, and when we carry those traumas of our ancestors, we are influenced to think and feel by what is in our DNA. This can be changed with Epigenetics, but we will discuss this later on. (Dr Bruce Lipton speaks of this in his research of Biology of Belief)

Not only do we understand that our family history affects us, but we also live in an environment that is disconnecting us from our heart, from others, from nature and from our selves; what is really important to us.

We have a society that shuns expressing thoughts and emotions.
We have a system that does not support free thinking and creativity. If anything it condemns it.
We have a world that is driven by money, profit and greed.
We have younger generations communicating through technology and emoji’s.
We have instant gratification to please our wants and drugs to fix our needs.
We have highly evolved beings amongst us, and due to ignorance we medicate and institutionalize them.
We idolize celebrities and rich people for just being famous.
We look outside of us to fill voids within us.
We continuously remind ourselves of the past, rather than creating our future.

WE ARE DISCONNECTED but times are changing and we are being reconnected.

So, where do we begin to come up out of the darkness of depression.

  • Acknowledge that you need some help. We all get down and we all need some lifting up in our lives.
  • Realize that medication and anti- depressants are not long term fixes. Placebo effect does wonders.
  • Stop thinking and start feeling. The mind feeds on itself.
  • Get moving and get exercising.
  • Breathe more deeply, it helps you to become more mindful.
  • Do some healing work.
  • Eat cleaner, organic, fresher, more alive foods (cut out processed/toxic foods)
  • Change your environment.
  • Talk more with people, spend time with others, RE-connect without technology
  • Start loving yourself and forgive yourself
  • Remember that you are a spiritual being that feels, loves and is ultimately happy.

Men are by far the greatest to suffer from depression and suicide. 45-49 year olds are the most affected in all societies. In the U.K alone they take up 26.8% per 100,000 suicide deaths. (Samaritan 2014)

Men do have feelings, they do cry, they do feel just like women do. Men don’t have to be strong and “suck it up”. when life gets tough on them.

The pressure of life is real. There are work, bills, family, job deadlines and lifestyles to maintain, along with health issues and daily struggles.

But you can change your life. It wont happen overnight but it will happen. You just need to believe that and let go of what is not working for you.

The most powerful way to begin change of your DNA, is by changing the way you think. This is what epigenetics is all about. You can change your DNA and biology by simply changing the way you think. Yes you read that correctly.

Dr Bruce Lipton has made this his whole life’s work ever since he discovered that cells would change depending on their environment.

Your environment is paramount to your life. If you live in an unhealthy environment you get sick. The same is said for your cells. If you want happy, thriving and positive cells then you must supply that kind of environment for them. And you can do this by changing the quality of your thoughts as well as taking notes from the list above.

We all need healing. Our world is a beautiful reflection of where we need to heal.

I refuse to accept depression as something one has to suffer for the rest of their lives.
I refuse to accept that medication is the only accepted way forward for treatment.
I refuse to accept depression and suicide as a weakness in people.

If you or anyone you know suffers from depression, suicidal thoughts or have been in a low frame for some time, then reach out. There are many health professionals who have overcome their demons and now seek to help others do the same.

Heal your past. Heal your thoughts. Heal your cells. Heal yourcelf.

Reconnect with your heart, and allow it to guide you back to your light and to your magic of why you are here and what your purpose is.

You got this x

The other side of you

You sit and observe the beautiful girl in the room. She is perfect in your eyes.

She has amazing shoes on, a great outfit, her hair is full and luscious, and you always wished for her kind of hair.

She has a very beautiful face, which is lit up by her perfect teeth and smile.

You adore her body and physique, and you say to yourself “she is lucky, she probably eats what she wants and is blessed with good genes”.

You begin to compare yourself to her, and look down and start judging yourself. Your confidence just fell through the floor, wishing you had picked out nicer clothes before you left home, even though you look great.

You put your drink down, excuse yourself and head to the ladies bathroom to compose yourself. You get your lip gloss, eyeliner, and mascara out, and stare at your reflection of the girl in the mirror.

How many times have us girls done this? Compared yourself to others by how they look, how their presence feels, what they are wearing and who their friends are. I am sure it is no different for men who feel the same way, and compare to other men in the room, or situations.

The minute we see someone who seemingly has their “shit together”, we feel bad about ourselves, magnify our flaws, and get frustrated where we are in our journey.

You may actually have all of the good traits of the “beautiful girl” in the above scenario, but we rarely see our own golden light and attributes.

What we don’t see when looking at others is their pain. The hardships endured, that they still may be enduring, and like most of us, carry it in silence.

Many beautiful girls, like most girls in population, have low self-esteem levels. Many of them sexually abused or assaulted in their younger years. Trauma being carried with them, that make-up and beautiful clothes only hide.

Toxic relationships that these girls keep getting involved in, because they see themselves as toxic on a deeper level. This isn’t always a belief they know they have, as it is on a sub-conscious level.

Looks don’t mean confidence.

Smiles don’t reflect happiness.

Great outfits and perfect make up hide emotional and physical scars.

Laughter masks the brokenness inside.

Flirting because dad didn’t teach you how to attract the right kind of love.

Crying yourself to sleep because you were told not to speak up when an older man touched you inappropriately.

Sound familiar? It was for me.

I have been toxic. I hated myself to the very core. I only respected myself as much as those cheating, lying boyfriends treated me

They only treated me a certain way because I allowed it…A difficult truth I needed to accept.

Drinking to forget my pain, even though I disliked alcohol and the way it made me feel.

Sleeping with men I didn’t like, because I wanted someone’s arms around me to make me feel loved, even if it was only for a night, and the sex rubbish.

Training myself into the ground until my body broke, because I needed to punish myself.

Seeing everyone else’s needs were met before mine, because they mattered and they were better than me.

Sabotaging good things and opportunities in my life because I didn’t deserve them.

That was the old me. Every point was exactly how I felt about myself. A broken girl who covered it so well, that she was able to be the motivation and inspiration for others because of the persona she gave.

We all have pain, trauma and past events that affect us to this day, whether we are aware of it or not. Your childhood and what you observed growing up, is what you base your beliefs on, how you carry out your daily life, and how your relationships evolve.

It is easy to sit and judge others by their looks and social status, but little do we know their story. Sometimes the very people you envy, are the very parts of yourself you need to heal.

One can only treat you the way you allow them to. People love pushing boundaries, and if you have none, then it might be time to set some up and avoid disappointments and heartbreak.

It is key for me to share some of my past and how I was, to help you in your journey of healing and change. To make you believe in yourself, that no matter how deep those wounds, they can be healed, they don’t have to dictate your life forever, and that they don’t reflect who you truly are.

For most of my career as an athlete I ran. I ran from myself, I ran from my emotions, I ran from those who loved me the most, and I ran myself into self-destruction.

I overcame my pain and my fears because I wanted to be a better me. I wanted to be happy, and I didn’t want this darkness that was plaguing me and destroying my life. Pain that almost cost me my life when I was 15, sad and wanting to end it with a box of panadol.

It takes courage, patience and a whole lot of forgiveness to overcome your demons and be the “beautiful girl” in the room with no other side of you to hide.

If you have been abused, assaulted, tormented and/or neglected, realise that your healed pain will someday be used to help someone else overcome theirs

Those with the deepest wounds always make the best healers and teachers.