Affirm your beliefs

Beliefs are your software to your programming (the way you think, act, behave, perceive reality, the world, yourself, etc) and they can either help you grow in a positive way or they can sabotage you.

We run from a program that was developed by the time we were 6yrs of age, and unless you have done any mental work you probably haven’t upgraded your software to reflect your physical growth!

Beliefs are your software to your programming (the way you think, act, behave, perceive reality, the world, yourself, etc) and they can either help you grow in a positive way or they can sabotage you.

Whether you were supported, loved, abandoned, secure, or grew up in an unstable environment, we all have beliefs according to our individual experiences. Even your siblings who may have grown up in the same household with the same parents will have different beliefs to you.

The good news is that your  B E L I E F S  C A N  B E  C H A N G E D!

Recognizing and becoming aware of your beliefs around various aspects of life such as career, self worth, wealth, relationships, property, finances, goals, love, and self esteem, is a step toward changing your programming to reflect who you truly are and want to be/achieve.

One way of creating a change to this system is the use of affirmations. Affirmations are statements that you say to yourself on daily basis until it becomes truth.

Now let’s take a belief that some of you may relate to I am not good enough.

Some affirmations to change this into positive self worth.

  • I approve of myself and feel great about myself
  • I am a winner and I attract only success
  • I am more than enough
  • I am successful
  • I value my self and all my efforts
  • I deserve happiness and joy
  • Outward results do not reflect my self worth or success
  • I love and forgive myself
  • I am proud of myself and all that I have accomplished.

By repeating one or some of these affirmations multiple times daily, and saying them with intention, your brain will replace these over your old ones and new beliefs will be created.

Affirmations also work well with tapping techniques (E.F.T, Kinesiology) and doing inner child work to release energy blocks and trauma in all levels of the self.

Remember your cells hear everything so be mindful of the thoughts you are constantly having and what you keep saying to yourself.

Shouldering pain

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Seriously who doesn’t have shoulder pain?

I look at school kids these days walking like turtles with their poor little growing spines carrying more and more every year…I thought laptops/ iPads were meant to ease the load of school books, never mind all their school issues and puberty stages to add to that load

Toddlers, shopping bags, handbags, laptop bags, they are all either on one shoulder or both of them. Then add some work stress, family commitments, deadlines, school fees, an old tennis shoulder injury, and some financial stress, and we have some real weight on those shoulders to carry!

It is no wonder your shoulders are hunched over and feeling heavy with the weight of the world sitting on them.

Physical pain is the body telling you quietly that there are some stuff you have going on that you’re not quite dealing with. Now how loud that little voice is will really depend on how long you leave those little things void.

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Pain in the shoulders can relate to a few things:

  • weight of the world
  • holding onto too much strain, stress, worry
  • feeling insecure, unsure, overwhelmed, sad, rejected, distrustful, and discouraged
  • droopy shoulders – lack of fun and joy
  • seriousness
  • focus on problems not solutions
  • accumulated anger creates chronic tension in the shoulders, neck and arms

To be honest I think we all carry way too much on our shoulders. It’s time to shrug the weight off and free yourself from the heaviness your bear down on your body – physically, mentally, and emotionally.

I see the weight on people’s shoulders in yoga class. I see it in the children who are carrying our futures problems. I see the sadness in our forgotten older generations that a society has pushed aside. I see it in the posture of abandoned animals. I see it in the broken bodies of office workers who slouch all day over technology and a cyber world that is slowly killing their spirit. I see it in the body language of depressed people as they walk around. I see it in my own body language when I get frustrated and communicate by shrugging my shoulders rather than communicating.

Oh boy does our body speak for us in communicating to others what is really going on with us. Just paying a little attention to someones posture and body language will reveal a lot.

Begin with deep breathing to begin to loosen tension in the body. Visualize those heavy weights you carry begin to fall off like nothing, and feel the softness and warmth return to the shoulders. roll them around, roll your neck and release that rigidity in those areas. A stiff, sore neck usually means refusing to see the other person’s perspective, stuck in your ways, withholding statements.

Release fear, anger, stress, and worry, and install peace, calm, relaxation, patience, support, and compassion.

Stand tall, stand proud and stand confident. Those who have tall posture and strong shoulders are also less likely to be attacked and victimized. This was mentioned by criminals who were interviewed on how they looked for their victims, by assessing their posture, arm movement and level of awareness.

Want to know more about the yin and yang side of the shoulder? Take a read of Does Your Body Lie?

Hips don’t lie…seriously!

Let’s face it, after teenagehood and entering into the adult world, it is almost a given that tight hips are a way of life.

There are the few exceptions from the rule but most of us including myself struggle with that stiffness around the pelvic region, and it’s deeper than tight hip flexors and psoas muscle, which mind you is known as the muscle of the soul.

You could say it’s a mixed bag of things with not stretching enough as our bodies grow, sitting all day, running too much, wearing heels, bone structure, the list can go on, but one thing to add here is the element of EMOTIONS.

Our hips are one of the greatest emotional storage containers in our bodies and we can store some of our deepest vulnerabilities in them. We store memories, emotional pain and energy from our partners current and past, and childhood trauma in the fascia (connective tissue).

What tight hips can also mean:

  • Fearing the future – living up to our own expectations (front of hips)
  • Fear of relationships – romantic and work
  • Emotional and physical trauma – childbirth
  • Chakra imbalance (sacral) – connected to sexuality, desires, pleasure and procreation. Ability to let go
  • Inability to love yourself – to be fully open
  • Holding onto the past – back of the hips (lower back/ glutes)

Through my own experience of hip pain and having to go through surgery to heal the physical damage, the real healing and opening of my hips came through many hours of breath work, specific yoga postures (tree pose [pic above], pigeon pose, low lunge, spinal twists, dancers pose) and releasing my energetic blocks through healing work. I can assure you it wasn’t an overnight job, but I got back to walking and running free of hip pain, and back to competing at higher levels.

Learning to be OK with the tightness is in itself a way of healing as you become mindful and free of judgement and expectation on where you are and where you want to be.

The hips are also connected to the brain via the central nervous system, so what you think and believe in carries on into those areas.

Yoga + breath + mindfulness = happy hips 🙂

What’s your environment?

Eating fresh produce, drinking water and exercising daily supplies your body with a healthy internal environment to operate well.

Reading books, studying, learning new skills and topics nourishes your mind and provides a healthy, positive environment for your brain to function.

Surrounding yourself with supportive, loving, and encouraging people provides you with a safe space to be yourself and grow.

Mother nature provides you with a clean, healthy, nourishing and supportive environment for you to live in when in her natural state.

Environments are everything in life from plants to home to science labs.

What I haven’t yet mentioned is the fact that your body is filled with trillions of cells and whatever goes into your body physically, energetically, and mentally, provides a type of environment for those cells to live in.

Cells reproduce all the time. Some last for a few seconds and some last up until your last breath.

Now, have you ever stopped to think about the environment you supply for these cells to grow in? This could be the kind of food you eat, the products you put on your body, to the type of people you surround yourself with.

What about your thoughts and emotions you have every day? Are they positive and encouraging, or are they limiting and counterproductive?

What you subconsciously and consciously think about is what you are ultimately creating in your life. I think they call that Law Of Attraction/ Manifesting.

Want to change the internal environment of your body to be healthier and more positive?

Well I’ve got a few affirmations/ statements to help you achieve that; but before you go ahead and say them, make sure your intentions are pure and free of expectation, because that will keep you exactly where you are!

  • I am happiness
  • I am health and vitality
  • I love and accept myself as I am
  • I love my body, take good care of it and radiate beauty
  • Every cell in my body is health conscious
  • I am gratitude
  • I am love
  • I am positive in all aspects of my life
  • and anything else you would like to make your own in I AM form.

Commit to saying some/one of these daily whenever it feels right to you, and see how they make you feel on the inside. Your environment doesn’t change overnight, nor in just a week, but give yourself a chance to create some positivity in your life.

As within so without.

The other side of you

You sit and observe the beautiful girl in the room. She is perfect in your eyes.

She has amazing shoes on, a great outfit, her hair is full and luscious, and you always wished for her kind of hair.

She has a very beautiful face, which is lit up by her perfect teeth and smile.

You adore her body and physique, and you say to yourself “she is lucky, she probably eats what she wants and is blessed with good genes”.

You begin to compare yourself to her, and look down and start judging yourself. Your confidence just fell through the floor, wishing you had picked out nicer clothes before you left home, even though you look great.

You put your drink down, excuse yourself and head to the ladies bathroom to compose yourself. You get your lip gloss, eyeliner, and mascara out, and stare at your reflection of the girl in the mirror.

How many times have us girls done this? Compared yourself to others by how they look, how their presence feels, what they are wearing and who their friends are. I am sure it is no different for men who feel the same way, and compare to other men in the room, or situations.

The minute we see someone who seemingly has their “shit together”, we feel bad about ourselves, magnify our flaws, and get frustrated where we are in our journey.

You may actually have all of the good traits of the “beautiful girl” in the above scenario, but we rarely see our own golden light and attributes.

What we don’t see when looking at others is their pain. The hardships endured, that they still may be enduring, and like most of us, carry it in silence.

Many beautiful girls, like most girls in population, have low self-esteem levels. Many of them sexually abused or assaulted in their younger years. Trauma being carried with them, that make-up and beautiful clothes only hide.

Toxic relationships that these girls keep getting involved in, because they see themselves as toxic on a deeper level. This isn’t always a belief they know they have, as it is on a sub-conscious level.

Looks don’t mean confidence.

Smiles don’t reflect happiness.

Great outfits and perfect make up hide emotional and physical scars.

Laughter masks the brokenness inside.

Flirting because dad didn’t teach you how to attract the right kind of love.

Crying yourself to sleep because you were told not to speak up when an older man touched you inappropriately.

Sound familiar? It was for me.

I have been toxic. I hated myself to the very core. I only respected myself as much as those cheating, lying boyfriends treated me

They only treated me a certain way because I allowed it…A difficult truth I needed to accept.

Drinking to forget my pain, even though I disliked alcohol and the way it made me feel.

Sleeping with men I didn’t like, because I wanted someone’s arms around me to make me feel loved, even if it was only for a night, and the sex rubbish.

Training myself into the ground until my body broke, because I needed to punish myself.

Seeing everyone else’s needs were met before mine, because they mattered and they were better than me.

Sabotaging good things and opportunities in my life because I didn’t deserve them.

That was the old me. Every point was exactly how I felt about myself. A broken girl who covered it so well, that she was able to be the motivation and inspiration for others because of the persona she gave.

We all have pain, trauma and past events that affect us to this day, whether we are aware of it or not. Your childhood and what you observed growing up, is what you base your beliefs on, how you carry out your daily life, and how your relationships evolve.

It is easy to sit and judge others by their looks and social status, but little do we know their story. Sometimes the very people you envy, are the very parts of yourself you need to heal.

One can only treat you the way you allow them to. People love pushing boundaries, and if you have none, then it might be time to set some up and avoid disappointments and heartbreak.

It is key for me to share some of my past and how I was, to help you in your journey of healing and change. To make you believe in yourself, that no matter how deep those wounds, they can be healed, they don’t have to dictate your life forever, and that they don’t reflect who you truly are.

For most of my career as an athlete I ran. I ran from myself, I ran from my emotions, I ran from those who loved me the most, and I ran myself into self-destruction.

I overcame my pain and my fears because I wanted to be a better me. I wanted to be happy, and I didn’t want this darkness that was plaguing me and destroying my life. Pain that almost cost me my life when I was 15, sad and wanting to end it with a box of panadol.

It takes courage, patience and a whole lot of forgiveness to overcome your demons and be the “beautiful girl” in the room with no other side of you to hide.

If you have been abused, assaulted, tormented and/or neglected, realise that your healed pain will someday be used to help someone else overcome theirs

Those with the deepest wounds always make the best healers and teachers.

How to see the Badass in you

How often do we motivate and inspire others to keep going, to believe in themselves, to push through the challenges, and tell them ‘you got this’, yet rarely do the same for ourselves?

My hands go up for this one!

We are forever looking at others, admiring their life, wishing for what they have, and telling ourselves they we can never have that lifestyle, job, physique or relationship, because we don’t have the same luck, genes, education, and the list goes on.

STOP! JUST STOP!

What makes the person in that £1000 suit better than you?

What about that girl with the perfect hair, no effort make-up, amazing body, and god-like boyfriend?

How about the man who parked up in the latest Audi A5 in front of Planet Organic?

And what about the fitness couple that are posting pictures of their workouts, perfect arrangement of meals for the week, and envious travel pics on Instagram?

I can tell you this….Absofreakinlutely nothing! (what a word huh?)

Now I’m not talking about EGO here. Feeding your ego to make yourself THINK you’re good. No. I’m talking about the REAL you, your true self, the gem that you are, underneath all that skin, bone and tissue, the one that is pure soul and love.

You have the power to change the life you were born in to. You were given life by your parents to live out your craziest and wildest dreams, yet some of us have forgotten something very key that makes all of this possible…

BELIEF! Nobody has ever succeeded without it.

It’s going to take time to build, and like all those who you admire and help motivate, you are going to start doing for yourself.

You were born with a badass attitude. It was there before society and those around you, broke you down, and made you believe you weren’t good enough. But now it’s time to get your little soft butt up (because I’ve never known a badass to have one), and start building your confidence and dreams.

Learn to love yourself, and those things you seek, you will become. So here goes…

Guide to A Badass Self (in no particular order)

  • Change to a positive mindset- this is where it all begins (thoughts & self-talk)

  • Congratulate yourself on getting thus far, and for all your achievements.

  • Stay true to you- there isn’t anyone like you, and that is your biggest asset

  • Write down some goals- visualize them, write them, work at them

  • Work on yourself- nutrition, exercise, emotions, meditate, self-development courses

  • Write down all the things you like about yourself and what you are good at

  • Lose some friends- let go of those negative leeches and make way for some new badasses

  • Focus on you- forget what she/he is doing over there. Over there is not where you’re going

  • Learn to laugh- mostly at yourself and at life’s crappy moments

  • Vent & Vex- get your frustrations out, heal & move on. Holding on is what’s holding you back

  • Stay classy- too many butts and not enough brains being displayed

  • Do what makes you happy- because a smile is the sexiest thing you will ever wear

     

Remember change takes time. Be patient and keep focusing on the person you want to be. Being a badass means you have your own back at all times, no sticks, stones or words will ever hurt you.

Become so infectious that your name alone changes the vibration of the world

Now that, is how to see the best in you!

YOU DESERVE IT! YOU ARE MAGICAL! YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL! JUST BELIEVE IN YOU

Theodora x