Do you like nobody else does

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

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So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

You are awesome just the way you are, so before you go ahead and imitate someone’s method of life, how about working on your already awesome talents and skills. You’ve already got all the tools you need, you just need to remember how to use them.

Too often we get caught up in what other people are doing, their lifestyle, their happiness, their success, their physicality, and their online social media, but have you checked out how awesome your life actually is?

Whether it be you being a parent (kudos to you for bringing souls into this world and nurturing their growth in the best way you know how to), or you working damn hard at your job because you enjoy it, or you having an amazing group of friends that are your rocks throughout all of your life’s adventures, or perhaps it’s the fact that you can say “fuck it” to life and hop on a train/ plane and go where your heart desires….what you are, and what you have created your life to be is amazing (even if you’re in that shitty part right now).

Sometimes we just need a little reminder on who we are, what we have and are creating is O.K.

You don’t need to be more than who you already are. You don’t need to do more to fit in or to be accepted. You don’t need to fit into size blah to be beautiful or handsome, or need to have crystal blue eyes.

Once you accept yourself as you are and be more than OK with it, what you aspire to attain and achieve will happen naturally and organically in the right time.

People will also be attracted to your security and confidence. It’s that saying that you hear people say”I don’t know what it is but there is something about you”. THAT is who you are at the core and allow that YOU to be seen and felt, because vibes don’t lie!

Stop rushing the process, stop thinking you need to be anywhere than where you are, and stay away from any plastic surgeons or magazines that will make you feel less than and that you need some work.

Be you. Be YOUnique. Just BE and shine your light.

Love + Fear

Love and Fear are the 2 basic emotions that we have. Whenever you take action, it is going to come from either one of these places. They are the Alpha and Omega of our emotional scale.

Scientists who recognize emotions from the use of different facial muscles (ie.Paul Eckman, Robert Plutchik, Charles Darwin) have gone from 7 basic human emotions (happiness, surprise, sadness, anger, disgust, fear, contempt), down to 4 (happiness, sadness, anger, fear). But no matter the faces we make, it is where our emotions originate from that is key.

Before I dive into this more, lets see what emotions really are.

  • Emotions bridge thoughts, feelings and actions
  • They are the body’s reaction to your mind
  • Control your thinking
  • Control your behaviour
  • Control your actions
  • They create chemical reactions in the body
  • Every emotion has its own vibration
  • They are internal responses to a thought

Emotions do a lot, and play a HUGE role in how we live our lives. Our emotions essentially run the quality of life we live, or deeper yet our THOUGHTS do.

It is the thoughts that we give our energy to that direct how we emotionally feel. You cannot think of truly positive, happy thoughts and be angry at the same time. The same goes for the opposite; to think about death, war, and starvation and be in a place of joy. (psychopaths may differ)

All emotions that go in between Love and Fear are just different versions of the same theme.

Happiness really is love, just look at a happy baby; no judgements just smiles.
Anger comes from a place of pain within, which either we experienced onto ourselves or from others and fear it.
Frustration is fear. Ask yourself why do you get frustrated, and then ask again on a deeper level why that bothers or affects you. It will again come from fear.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling our emotions. That is what we are here to do. To experience life fully and feel as much of it as we can in our experiences, in our interactions with others, and in our various types of relationships.

Emotions are just waves of energy that allow us to feel. The more you can begin to let go of negative thoughts, past traumatic experiences, and ultimately forgive yourself and others, the more you can live freely and experience life as it comes without fear.

A great quote from the book Conversations with God (book 1) that describes how we are in relationships when it comes to love.

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In the moment you pledge your highest love, you greet your greatest fear.
For the first thing you worry about after saying “i love you” is whether you’ll hear it back. And if you hear it back, then you begin immediately to worry that the love you have just found, you will lose. And so all action becomes a reaction- defense against loss” – Neale Donald Walsch

There is nothing to lose, but only to gain. If you lose something then it was no longer needed in your life, and it’s making way for the new.

There is nothing to fear, only to love. When you are i a state of fear, you are unwell, you weaken your immune system, you make irrational and reactive decisions. When you love you move forward in life and are strengthened, empowered, as love is your true essence, your natural state, and things happen from the heart.

What have you overcome that you once feared?

FEAR is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in, runs, hides, hoards and harms.
LOVE is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares and heals.

You always have a choice of what emotion you want to feel and experience. Remember it all starts with a thought.

How to see the Badass in you

How often do we motivate and inspire others to keep going, to believe in themselves, to push through the challenges, and tell them ‘you got this’, yet rarely do the same for ourselves?

My hands go up for this one!

We are forever looking at others, admiring their life, wishing for what they have, and telling ourselves they we can never have that lifestyle, job, physique or relationship, because we don’t have the same luck, genes, education, and the list goes on.

STOP! JUST STOP!

What makes the person in that £1000 suit better than you?

What about that girl with the perfect hair, no effort make-up, amazing body, and god-like boyfriend?

How about the man who parked up in the latest Audi A5 in front of Planet Organic?

And what about the fitness couple that are posting pictures of their workouts, perfect arrangement of meals for the week, and envious travel pics on Instagram?

I can tell you this….Absofreakinlutely nothing! (what a word huh?)

Now I’m not talking about EGO here. Feeding your ego to make yourself THINK you’re good. No. I’m talking about the REAL you, your true self, the gem that you are, underneath all that skin, bone and tissue, the one that is pure soul and love.

You have the power to change the life you were born in to. You were given life by your parents to live out your craziest and wildest dreams, yet some of us have forgotten something very key that makes all of this possible…

BELIEF! Nobody has ever succeeded without it.

It’s going to take time to build, and like all those who you admire and help motivate, you are going to start doing for yourself.

You were born with a badass attitude. It was there before society and those around you, broke you down, and made you believe you weren’t good enough. But now it’s time to get your little soft butt up (because I’ve never known a badass to have one), and start building your confidence and dreams.

Learn to love yourself, and those things you seek, you will become. So here goes…

Guide to A Badass Self (in no particular order)

  • Change to a positive mindset- this is where it all begins (thoughts & self-talk)

  • Congratulate yourself on getting thus far, and for all your achievements.

  • Stay true to you- there isn’t anyone like you, and that is your biggest asset

  • Write down some goals- visualize them, write them, work at them

  • Work on yourself- nutrition, exercise, emotions, meditate, self-development courses

  • Write down all the things you like about yourself and what you are good at

  • Lose some friends- let go of those negative leeches and make way for some new badasses

  • Focus on you- forget what she/he is doing over there. Over there is not where you’re going

  • Learn to laugh- mostly at yourself and at life’s crappy moments

  • Vent & Vex- get your frustrations out, heal & move on. Holding on is what’s holding you back

  • Stay classy- too many butts and not enough brains being displayed

  • Do what makes you happy- because a smile is the sexiest thing you will ever wear

     

Remember change takes time. Be patient and keep focusing on the person you want to be. Being a badass means you have your own back at all times, no sticks, stones or words will ever hurt you.

Become so infectious that your name alone changes the vibration of the world

Now that, is how to see the best in you!

YOU DESERVE IT! YOU ARE MAGICAL! YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL! JUST BELIEVE IN YOU

Theodora x