Stop forcing nature

What you do need is a balance of Intention + Action + Patience

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Let’s be honest, no matter how quick you drink that detox tea, or how many green veggies you cram in a day, if it takes your red blood cells alone 4 months to regenerate then it’s going to take some time for your health and body to change.

Just like everything in life there is a timing for things, and patience really does need to be a virtue in that “in-between” phase.

Now don’t take the first 2 paragraphs literally and sit back on your little buns and do nothing and expect change to happen. No, that is wishful thinking and taking manifesting to a Dreamworks animation film level. (ie. dream state/ non-existent/ crystal ball level)

What you do need is a balance of Intention + Action + Patience.

Intention… is the energy and purpose behind your goal, and this needs to be on the positive side (believe in your system/ plan/ goal/ dream/ yourself)

Action…is what you need to carry out on a consistent basis for your goals to be realized. Without action you are just wishing and praying on faith

Patience… this doesn’t really need to be explained but it’s something that you will need to carry out when you’re internet connection is slow, and when things (sh*t) just happen along the way!

NATURE FLOWS!!!

We get so caught up in carrying out the first 2 elements in life that we forget about the 3rd…PATIENCE!

When things are forced it goes against nature’s way. Life naturally flows, yet our desire to have things almost instantly is creating a loss of depth, value, and trust within us and our process.

Sometimes you just need to let go, so whatever you are working on at the moment, take 5 on it!

Take a few deep breaths, look at it’s value in your life (is it something that is benefiting you or holding you back?) and either take action on it or don’t.

YES inaction is sometimes a key element to your goals working out. We can become so focused that we miss the bigger picture in our lives. Sometimes we just need to go back to nature, look at how it deals with all it’s forces, seasons, and elements and learn from it.

Be patient with yourself in the process. Stop forcing change to happen. Let go of things that aren’t serving you, and truly listen to your inner guidance.

De-press-your-mind

Depression.

Yes, it’s real. And if you haven’t suffered from it, then you will know of someone who has/is.

Whilst there is a movement to see depression be recognized within our society as a mental health issue, as well as a leading cause for suicide in our youth, our men, and PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) sufferers, it’s still under that taboo “don’t talk about it” banner.

Why do I say this?

Because last week on the way home from finishing a fitness class, I encountered 2 road blocks. One was a car accident that held up traffic for over an hour, and the other, while traffic was held to a complete standstill, got no mention in the press the following day. Why? because it was a suicide jump.

This surely should have been reported, but you rarely here of suicides in the press unless it’s suicide bomber or terrorist related.

Firstly let’s understand what depression actually is.

Depression is a low mood that lasts for a long time, and affects your everyday life.

In its mildest form, depression can mean just being in low spirits. It doesn’t stop you leading your normal life but makes everything harder to do and seem less worthwhile. At its most severe, depression can be life-threatening because it can make you feel suicidal or simply give up the will to live.” – Mind

Now this is an explanation of what depression is from a clinical perspective. Let’s look at this a little deeper.

Our bodies are filled with billions and billions of cells, each one of them carrying DNA, ancestral emotions, trauma, thoughts and genes.

Our cells make up who we are, and when we carry those traumas of our ancestors, we are influenced to think and feel by what is in our DNA. This can be changed with Epigenetics, but we will discuss this later on. (Dr Bruce Lipton speaks of this in his research of Biology of Belief)

Not only do we understand that our family history affects us, but we also live in an environment that is disconnecting us from our heart, from others, from nature and from our selves; what is really important to us.

We have a society that shuns expressing thoughts and emotions.
We have a system that does not support free thinking and creativity. If anything it condemns it.
We have a world that is driven by money, profit and greed.
We have younger generations communicating through technology and emoji’s.
We have instant gratification to please our wants and drugs to fix our needs.
We have highly evolved beings amongst us, and due to ignorance we medicate and institutionalize them.
We idolize celebrities and rich people for just being famous.
We look outside of us to fill voids within us.
We continuously remind ourselves of the past, rather than creating our future.

WE ARE DISCONNECTED but times are changing and we are being reconnected.

So, where do we begin to come up out of the darkness of depression.

  • Acknowledge that you need some help. We all get down and we all need some lifting up in our lives.
  • Realize that medication and anti- depressants are not long term fixes. Placebo effect does wonders.
  • Stop thinking and start feeling. The mind feeds on itself.
  • Get moving and get exercising.
  • Breathe more deeply, it helps you to become more mindful.
  • Do some healing work.
  • Eat cleaner, organic, fresher, more alive foods (cut out processed/toxic foods)
  • Change your environment.
  • Talk more with people, spend time with others, RE-connect without technology
  • Start loving yourself and forgive yourself
  • Remember that you are a spiritual being that feels, loves and is ultimately happy.

Men are by far the greatest to suffer from depression and suicide. 45-49 year olds are the most affected in all societies. In the U.K alone they take up 26.8% per 100,000 suicide deaths. (Samaritan 2014)

Men do have feelings, they do cry, they do feel just like women do. Men don’t have to be strong and “suck it up”. when life gets tough on them.

The pressure of life is real. There are work, bills, family, job deadlines and lifestyles to maintain, along with health issues and daily struggles.

But you can change your life. It wont happen overnight but it will happen. You just need to believe that and let go of what is not working for you.

The most powerful way to begin change of your DNA, is by changing the way you think. This is what epigenetics is all about. You can change your DNA and biology by simply changing the way you think. Yes you read that correctly.

Dr Bruce Lipton has made this his whole life’s work ever since he discovered that cells would change depending on their environment.

Your environment is paramount to your life. If you live in an unhealthy environment you get sick. The same is said for your cells. If you want happy, thriving and positive cells then you must supply that kind of environment for them. And you can do this by changing the quality of your thoughts as well as taking notes from the list above.

We all need healing. Our world is a beautiful reflection of where we need to heal.

I refuse to accept depression as something one has to suffer for the rest of their lives.
I refuse to accept that medication is the only accepted way forward for treatment.
I refuse to accept depression and suicide as a weakness in people.

If you or anyone you know suffers from depression, suicidal thoughts or have been in a low frame for some time, then reach out. There are many health professionals who have overcome their demons and now seek to help others do the same.

Heal your past. Heal your thoughts. Heal your cells. Heal yourcelf.

Reconnect with your heart, and allow it to guide you back to your light and to your magic of why you are here and what your purpose is.

You got this x

The other side of you

You sit and observe the beautiful girl in the room. She is perfect in your eyes.

She has amazing shoes on, a great outfit, her hair is full and luscious, and you always wished for her kind of hair.

She has a very beautiful face, which is lit up by her perfect teeth and smile.

You adore her body and physique, and you say to yourself “she is lucky, she probably eats what she wants and is blessed with good genes”.

You begin to compare yourself to her, and look down and start judging yourself. Your confidence just fell through the floor, wishing you had picked out nicer clothes before you left home, even though you look great.

You put your drink down, excuse yourself and head to the ladies bathroom to compose yourself. You get your lip gloss, eyeliner, and mascara out, and stare at your reflection of the girl in the mirror.

How many times have us girls done this? Compared yourself to others by how they look, how their presence feels, what they are wearing and who their friends are. I am sure it is no different for men who feel the same way, and compare to other men in the room, or situations.

The minute we see someone who seemingly has their “shit together”, we feel bad about ourselves, magnify our flaws, and get frustrated where we are in our journey.

You may actually have all of the good traits of the “beautiful girl” in the above scenario, but we rarely see our own golden light and attributes.

What we don’t see when looking at others is their pain. The hardships endured, that they still may be enduring, and like most of us, carry it in silence.

Many beautiful girls, like most girls in population, have low self-esteem levels. Many of them sexually abused or assaulted in their younger years. Trauma being carried with them, that make-up and beautiful clothes only hide.

Toxic relationships that these girls keep getting involved in, because they see themselves as toxic on a deeper level. This isn’t always a belief they know they have, as it is on a sub-conscious level.

Looks don’t mean confidence.

Smiles don’t reflect happiness.

Great outfits and perfect make up hide emotional and physical scars.

Laughter masks the brokenness inside.

Flirting because dad didn’t teach you how to attract the right kind of love.

Crying yourself to sleep because you were told not to speak up when an older man touched you inappropriately.

Sound familiar? It was for me.

I have been toxic. I hated myself to the very core. I only respected myself as much as those cheating, lying boyfriends treated me

They only treated me a certain way because I allowed it…A difficult truth I needed to accept.

Drinking to forget my pain, even though I disliked alcohol and the way it made me feel.

Sleeping with men I didn’t like, because I wanted someone’s arms around me to make me feel loved, even if it was only for a night, and the sex rubbish.

Training myself into the ground until my body broke, because I needed to punish myself.

Seeing everyone else’s needs were met before mine, because they mattered and they were better than me.

Sabotaging good things and opportunities in my life because I didn’t deserve them.

That was the old me. Every point was exactly how I felt about myself. A broken girl who covered it so well, that she was able to be the motivation and inspiration for others because of the persona she gave.

We all have pain, trauma and past events that affect us to this day, whether we are aware of it or not. Your childhood and what you observed growing up, is what you base your beliefs on, how you carry out your daily life, and how your relationships evolve.

It is easy to sit and judge others by their looks and social status, but little do we know their story. Sometimes the very people you envy, are the very parts of yourself you need to heal.

One can only treat you the way you allow them to. People love pushing boundaries, and if you have none, then it might be time to set some up and avoid disappointments and heartbreak.

It is key for me to share some of my past and how I was, to help you in your journey of healing and change. To make you believe in yourself, that no matter how deep those wounds, they can be healed, they don’t have to dictate your life forever, and that they don’t reflect who you truly are.

For most of my career as an athlete I ran. I ran from myself, I ran from my emotions, I ran from those who loved me the most, and I ran myself into self-destruction.

I overcame my pain and my fears because I wanted to be a better me. I wanted to be happy, and I didn’t want this darkness that was plaguing me and destroying my life. Pain that almost cost me my life when I was 15, sad and wanting to end it with a box of panadol.

It takes courage, patience and a whole lot of forgiveness to overcome your demons and be the “beautiful girl” in the room with no other side of you to hide.

If you have been abused, assaulted, tormented and/or neglected, realise that your healed pain will someday be used to help someone else overcome theirs

Those with the deepest wounds always make the best healers and teachers.