Stop forcing nature

What you do need is a balance of Intention + Action + Patience

Let’s be honest, no matter how quick you drink that detox tea, or how many green veggies you cram in a day, if it takes your red blood cells alone 4 months to regenerate then it’s going to take some time for your health and body to change.

Just like everything in life there is a timing for things, and patience really does need to be a virtue in that “in-between” phase.

Now don’t take the first 2 paragraphs literally and sit back on your little buns and do nothing and expect change to happen. No, that is wishful thinking and taking manifesting to a Dreamworks animation film level. (ie. dream state/ non-existent/ crystal ball level)

What you do need is a balance of Intention + Action + Patience.

Intention… is the energy and purpose behind your goal, and this needs to be on the positive side (believe in your system/ plan/ goal/ dream/ yourself)

Action…is what you need to carry out on a consistent basis for your goals to be realized. Without action you are just wishing and praying on faith

Patience… this doesn’t really need to be explained but it’s something that you will need to carry out when you’re internet connection is slow, and when things (sh*t) just happen along the way!

NATURE FLOWS!!!

We get so caught up in carrying out the first 2 elements in life that we forget about the 3rd…PATIENCE!

When things are forced it goes against nature’s way. Life naturally flows, yet our desire to have things almost instantly is creating a loss of depth, value, and trust within us and our process.

Sometimes you just need to let go, so whatever you are working on at the moment, take 5 on it!

Take a few deep breaths, look at it’s value in your life (is it something that is benefiting you or holding you back?) and either take action on it or don’t.

YES inaction is sometimes a key element to your goals working out. We can become so focused that we miss the bigger picture in our lives. Sometimes we just need to go back to nature, look at how it deals with all it’s forces, seasons, and elements and learn from it.

Be patient with yourself in the process. Stop forcing change to happen. Let go of things that aren’t serving you, and truly listen to your inner guidance.

Affirm your beliefs

Beliefs are your software to your programming (the way you think, act, behave, perceive reality, the world, yourself, etc) and they can either help you grow in a positive way or they can sabotage you.

We run from a program that was developed by the time we were 6yrs of age, and unless you have done any mental work you probably haven’t upgraded your software to reflect your physical growth!

Beliefs are your software to your programming (the way you think, act, behave, perceive reality, the world, yourself, etc) and they can either help you grow in a positive way or they can sabotage you.

Whether you were supported, loved, abandoned, secure, or grew up in an unstable environment, we all have beliefs according to our individual experiences. Even your siblings who may have grown up in the same household with the same parents will have different beliefs to you.

The good news is that your  B E L I E F S  C A N  B E  C H A N G E D!

Recognizing and becoming aware of your beliefs around various aspects of life such as career, self worth, wealth, relationships, property, finances, goals, love, and self esteem, is a step toward changing your programming to reflect who you truly are and want to be/achieve.

One way of creating a change to this system is the use of affirmations. Affirmations are statements that you say to yourself on daily basis until it becomes truth.

Now let’s take a belief that some of you may relate to I am not good enough.

Some affirmations to change this into positive self worth.

  • I approve of myself and feel great about myself
  • I am a winner and I attract only success
  • I am more than enough
  • I am successful
  • I value my self and all my efforts
  • I deserve happiness and joy
  • Outward results do not reflect my self worth or success
  • I love and forgive myself
  • I am proud of myself and all that I have accomplished.

By repeating one or some of these affirmations multiple times daily, and saying them with intention, your brain will replace these over your old ones and new beliefs will be created.

Affirmations also work well with tapping techniques (E.F.T, Kinesiology) and doing inner child work to release energy blocks and trauma in all levels of the self.

Remember your cells hear everything so be mindful of the thoughts you are constantly having and what you keep saying to yourself.

Do you like nobody else does

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

You are awesome just the way you are, so before you go ahead and imitate someone’s method of life, how about working on your already awesome talents and skills. You’ve already got all the tools you need, you just need to remember how to use them.

Too often we get caught up in what other people are doing, their lifestyle, their happiness, their success, their physicality, and their online social media, but have you checked out how awesome your life actually is?

Whether it be you being a parent (kudos to you for bringing souls into this world and nurturing their growth in the best way you know how to), or you working damn hard at your job because you enjoy it, or you having an amazing group of friends that are your rocks throughout all of your life’s adventures, or perhaps it’s the fact that you can say “fuck it” to life and hop on a train/ plane and go where your heart desires….what you are, and what you have created your life to be is amazing (even if you’re in that shitty part right now).

Sometimes we just need a little reminder on who we are, what we have and are creating is O.K.

You don’t need to be more than who you already are. You don’t need to do more to fit in or to be accepted. You don’t need to fit into size blah to be beautiful or handsome, or need to have crystal blue eyes.

Once you accept yourself as you are and be more than OK with it, what you aspire to attain and achieve will happen naturally and organically in the right time.

People will also be attracted to your security and confidence. It’s that saying that you hear people say”I don’t know what it is but there is something about you”. THAT is who you are at the core and allow that YOU to be seen and felt, because vibes don’t lie!

Stop rushing the process, stop thinking you need to be anywhere than where you are, and stay away from any plastic surgeons or magazines that will make you feel less than and that you need some work.

Be you. Be YOUnique. Just BE and shine your light.

Speak your truth even if they don’t like it

Whether it’s right or wrong or we agree with it or not, it is up to us to make a decision on what feels right for us to either take on board, or leave it with all the other info that is out there.

Sometimes we have beliefs and ideas that are so ingrained in us that we don’t realize how we actually perceive things.

Nope, you may not like everything you hear but it’s all just information right?

Whether it’s right or wrong or we agree with it or not, it is up to us to make a decision on what feels right for us to either take on board, or leave it with all the other info that is out there.

Sometimes we have beliefs and ideas that are so ingrained in us that we don’t realize how we actually perceive things.

We now live in a time where everything is literally out our fingertips.

I was just taking a moment today admiring at how the world is because of the internet. We have data at our fingertips. If we want to find a book we can order it online or head into a bookstore ourselves. It’s all there, accessible like never before.

Perhaps there is too much information for us to get through. We are bombarded daily with media sites, subliminal advertising, news, human talk and everything we scroll through in our phones and laptops. System overload!

I don’t blame you if you have no idea what is actually real and what is fiction…I am probably half way in that thought pattern myself. Truth has been blended with “alternative facts”, reality is hidden through films and books, and journalists have lost their reputation as reputable sources.

If you believe in something say it. If you know something that another person doesn’t, talk about it. Your friends may not agree with you on 99% of the things you say (if that is the case it might be time to get new friends), but that 1% may help them, it may be a seed that gets planted that grows when the time is right.

If you are adamant on your beliefs ask yourself:
Why is that? Where did my beliefs come from? Do they serve me? Do they reflect the person I am today?

It is OK to change your beliefs, in fact it is healthy to do so. It is OK to change your mind. (I didn’t always like spicy food but now I do, the same goes for spinach). It’s OK to grow and to want to know more, it’s a part of life.

Learn, learn, and keep learning. As your mind expands with new knowledge you will find what feels right for you, you will see through the facade of false headlines, through panic and fear, and you will find truth in a world of charlatans, gossip and Chinese whispers. The heart is never wrong…follow it.

What’s your environment?

Eating fresh produce, drinking water and exercising daily supplies your body with a healthy internal environment to operate well.

Reading books, studying, learning new skills and topics nourishes your mind and provides a healthy, positive environment for your brain to function.

Surrounding yourself with supportive, loving, and encouraging people provides you with a safe space to be yourself and grow.

Mother nature provides you with a clean, healthy, nourishing and supportive environment for you to live in when in her natural state.

Environments are everything in life from plants to home to science labs.

What I haven’t yet mentioned is the fact that your body is filled with trillions of cells and whatever goes into your body physically, energetically, and mentally, provides a type of environment for those cells to live in.

Cells reproduce all the time. Some last for a few seconds and some last up until your last breath.

Now, have you ever stopped to think about the environment you supply for these cells to grow in? This could be the kind of food you eat, the products you put on your body, to the type of people you surround yourself with.

What about your thoughts and emotions you have every day? Are they positive and encouraging, or are they limiting and counterproductive?

What you subconsciously and consciously think about is what you are ultimately creating in your life. I think they call that Law Of Attraction/ Manifesting.

Want to change the internal environment of your body to be healthier and more positive?

Well I’ve got a few affirmations/ statements to help you achieve that; but before you go ahead and say them, make sure your intentions are pure and free of expectation, because that will keep you exactly where you are!

  • I am happiness
  • I am health and vitality
  • I love and accept myself as I am
  • I love my body, take good care of it and radiate beauty
  • Every cell in my body is health conscious
  • I am gratitude
  • I am love
  • I am positive in all aspects of my life
  • and anything else you would like to make your own in I AM form.

Commit to saying some/one of these daily whenever it feels right to you, and see how they make you feel on the inside. Your environment doesn’t change overnight, nor in just a week, but give yourself a chance to create some positivity in your life.

As within so without.

Who’s accountable?

“It’s her fault, she made me angry and I lashed out!”  Ummm, well actually this is not completely true and would you hate me if I told you that it was YOU that made YOU lash out?

She only made you become aware of the anger that was already residing within you and her words/actions hit your “angry pain” button.

Yes it’s true, no one else can make you feel a certain way except for you as an individual. We can get mad about people disrespecting us, taking us for granted, and ignoring us, but we can only change how we react to them, not in how they choose to treat us. A little bit like “don’t let your happiness be controlled by something you can’t control.”

What is within us can only come to light, just like orange juice can only come from the inside of an orange and not apple or pineapple juice.  No one can pass on anger to us like a baton or a side dish, it is something that is hiding deep within that gets triggered by a memory in our brain and in our body’s cells.

Taking responsibility for your emotions is one of the most empowering things you can ever do. You take power back from the emotion/s and own the way you feel. You become present to how you are feeling and realize that those emotions are yours and they can be changed through conscious awareness.

You can also heal these emotions as you bring awareness to them within the body. As we know emotions are energy that can become trapped in the body if they are not processed at the time they are felt.

It is quite easy to pass responsibility for how we feel and for the state we are in mentally, emotionally and physically. As grown adults we are aware that we can change our internal and external environments through our choices,and if you are not, well I guess you just became aware!

Now responsibility goes beyond juts owning your emotions. It is about accepting that you are at this point in your life through your own decisions, level of work and your belief systems.

The type of relationships you create in your life are through your conscious and unconscious decisions.

The level of happiness in your life is a conscious choice of how you see yourself.

The type of environment you live in is a reflection of your choices on what you like to be around.

Your health status is all about what your lifestyle choices.

Your travels are through your conscious choices to pick those destinations.

Taking accountability and responsibility for your life gives you the driver seat in which way you take direction. It stops others from controlling you on various levels; financially,emotionally, mentally and in career.

Take back your power, empower yourself to becoming who you desire to be, create your dreams and goals into reality and account yourself for making those things happen.

Blaming others can almost be labelled immature. This is what growing up into becoming a responsible adult really means and not just a legal right to buy alcohol and drive because you’re over 18.

The choice is yours.

 

The other side of you

You sit and observe the beautiful girl in the room. She is perfect in your eyes.

She has amazing shoes on, a great outfit, her hair is full and luscious, and you always wished for her kind of hair.

She has a very beautiful face, which is lit up by her perfect teeth and smile.

You adore her body and physique, and you say to yourself “she is lucky, she probably eats what she wants and is blessed with good genes”.

You begin to compare yourself to her, and look down and start judging yourself. Your confidence just fell through the floor, wishing you had picked out nicer clothes before you left home, even though you look great.

You put your drink down, excuse yourself and head to the ladies bathroom to compose yourself. You get your lip gloss, eyeliner, and mascara out, and stare at your reflection of the girl in the mirror.

How many times have us girls done this? Compared yourself to others by how they look, how their presence feels, what they are wearing and who their friends are. I am sure it is no different for men who feel the same way, and compare to other men in the room, or situations.

The minute we see someone who seemingly has their “shit together”, we feel bad about ourselves, magnify our flaws, and get frustrated where we are in our journey.

You may actually have all of the good traits of the “beautiful girl” in the above scenario, but we rarely see our own golden light and attributes.

What we don’t see when looking at others is their pain. The hardships endured, that they still may be enduring, and like most of us, carry it in silence.

Many beautiful girls, like most girls in population, have low self-esteem levels. Many of them sexually abused or assaulted in their younger years. Trauma being carried with them, that make-up and beautiful clothes only hide.

Toxic relationships that these girls keep getting involved in, because they see themselves as toxic on a deeper level. This isn’t always a belief they know they have, as it is on a sub-conscious level.

Looks don’t mean confidence.

Smiles don’t reflect happiness.

Great outfits and perfect make up hide emotional and physical scars.

Laughter masks the brokenness inside.

Flirting because dad didn’t teach you how to attract the right kind of love.

Crying yourself to sleep because you were told not to speak up when an older man touched you inappropriately.

Sound familiar? It was for me.

I have been toxic. I hated myself to the very core. I only respected myself as much as those cheating, lying boyfriends treated me

They only treated me a certain way because I allowed it…A difficult truth I needed to accept.

Drinking to forget my pain, even though I disliked alcohol and the way it made me feel.

Sleeping with men I didn’t like, because I wanted someone’s arms around me to make me feel loved, even if it was only for a night, and the sex rubbish.

Training myself into the ground until my body broke, because I needed to punish myself.

Seeing everyone else’s needs were met before mine, because they mattered and they were better than me.

Sabotaging good things and opportunities in my life because I didn’t deserve them.

That was the old me. Every point was exactly how I felt about myself. A broken girl who covered it so well, that she was able to be the motivation and inspiration for others because of the persona she gave.

We all have pain, trauma and past events that affect us to this day, whether we are aware of it or not. Your childhood and what you observed growing up, is what you base your beliefs on, how you carry out your daily life, and how your relationships evolve.

It is easy to sit and judge others by their looks and social status, but little do we know their story. Sometimes the very people you envy, are the very parts of yourself you need to heal.

One can only treat you the way you allow them to. People love pushing boundaries, and if you have none, then it might be time to set some up and avoid disappointments and heartbreak.

It is key for me to share some of my past and how I was, to help you in your journey of healing and change. To make you believe in yourself, that no matter how deep those wounds, they can be healed, they don’t have to dictate your life forever, and that they don’t reflect who you truly are.

For most of my career as an athlete I ran. I ran from myself, I ran from my emotions, I ran from those who loved me the most, and I ran myself into self-destruction.

I overcame my pain and my fears because I wanted to be a better me. I wanted to be happy, and I didn’t want this darkness that was plaguing me and destroying my life. Pain that almost cost me my life when I was 15, sad and wanting to end it with a box of panadol.

It takes courage, patience and a whole lot of forgiveness to overcome your demons and be the “beautiful girl” in the room with no other side of you to hide.

If you have been abused, assaulted, tormented and/or neglected, realise that your healed pain will someday be used to help someone else overcome theirs

Those with the deepest wounds always make the best healers and teachers.