Do you like nobody else does

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

You are awesome just the way you are, so before you go ahead and imitate someone’s method of life, how about working on your already awesome talents and skills. You’ve already got all the tools you need, you just need to remember how to use them.

Too often we get caught up in what other people are doing, their lifestyle, their happiness, their success, their physicality, and their online social media, but have you checked out how awesome your life actually is?

Whether it be you being a parent (kudos to you for bringing souls into this world and nurturing their growth in the best way you know how to), or you working damn hard at your job because you enjoy it, or you having an amazing group of friends that are your rocks throughout all of your life’s adventures, or perhaps it’s the fact that you can say “fuck it” to life and hop on a train/ plane and go where your heart desires….what you are, and what you have created your life to be is amazing (even if you’re in that shitty part right now).

Sometimes we just need a little reminder on who we are, what we have and are creating is O.K.

You don’t need to be more than who you already are. You don’t need to do more to fit in or to be accepted. You don’t need to fit into size blah to be beautiful or handsome, or need to have crystal blue eyes.

Once you accept yourself as you are and be more than OK with it, what you aspire to attain and achieve will happen naturally and organically in the right time.

People will also be attracted to your security and confidence. It’s that saying that you hear people say”I don’t know what it is but there is something about you”. THAT is who you are at the core and allow that YOU to be seen and felt, because vibes don’t lie!

Stop rushing the process, stop thinking you need to be anywhere than where you are, and stay away from any plastic surgeons or magazines that will make you feel less than and that you need some work.

Be you. Be YOUnique. Just BE and shine your light.

Are you doing what makes you happy?

Your breath is your reality check. You waking up daily is your 24hours to make something positive in your day. You just being here and creating a difference in someone’s life whether you know it or not is enough to create some happy vibes in your life.

This is a serious question to ask yourself!

Mediocrity is so last year and it’s honestly time to put those “I’m OK. I’m fine” feelings to bed!

We know that happy is an inside job, it’s a state of mind and an inner peace, but I know I’d rather be sitting on a beach watching the sunset than being stuck in traffic.

Life is not an easy journey and we didn’t just incarnate for that mediocre fairytale we have somehow been sold. We have come here to experience life, to feel emotions, to grow through our lessons and to join up with our soul mates (yes they do exist and there is not just one of them either!) and create moments.

We have also come here to have fun, to enjoy this blink of existence, to contribute our gifts to humanity and the earth, and help make this world a better place.

We have an average of about 80 years of life in us, of course this depends on where you are living and sorry to say that the male expires before the female, (check your lifespan here) and it really does go by quickly, judging by my first 30 years of life.

Life really is too short to do anything less than what makes you happy.

There will be times that you will have to eat humble pie, do things you don’t like, put up with people that test your patience (family gatherings are one of those times), swallow that bitter pill in the face of negative criticism and be nice to people that truly are just assholes, but at the end of it all it really doesn’t matter.

Just take a look at the picture in this post. It was named the happiest photo on the internet (I’m not kidding…google it!), and even the camel got involved in those happy positive vibes. That right there is happiness at it’s finest.

Have you actually asked yourself “what is it that makes me happy?”

Perhaps it’s singing in the karaoke bar with your mates dressed in 80’s gymwear; maybe it’s reading a book in the countryside all by yourself drinking hot chocolate with marshmallows; it could be a simple stroll with your loved one under the night sky; maybe it’s falling asleep in fresh bed sheets; maybe it’s closing 6 figure deals with your team at work; maybe it’s taking mixology lessons to get your espresso martini’s right; or as simple as switching off the phone on a Saturday night to chill with Netflix.

Just do it. Just do it. Just do it!

If there is anything good to come out of the brand Nike it’s that famous slogan.

Don’t wait for the death of a loved one, or a serious illness to shake you up out of your hamster wheel routine, it doesn’t need to get to that point for a reality check.

Your breath is your reality check. You waking up daily is your 24hours to make something positive in your day. You just being here and creating a difference in someone’s life whether you know it or not is enough to create some happy vibes in your life.

Don’t get bogged down by the media, do yourself a favour and avoid the news for a week, I assure you the world will still exist and you might just find something positive to talk about.

Got a pen? Got some paper? Good!

Start writing your “what makes me happy” list and start checking them off.

As the famous quote states “We are not here for a long time, we are here for a good time”.

Surround yourself with like minded people

All of a sudden you feel like you fit. All of a sudden you feel this feeling of being safe amongst a tribe. You feel supported, and that empowers you to be your true authentic self.

They say that you are the average of the 5 people you associate with most in your life, and I would have to say that has run true in my life.

Spending time with people who inspire you, motivate you, and perhaps are a little higher on the scale of where you would like to be, encourages you to lift your game and pursue your dreams.

Like minded people reaffirm your path and what you are about. They help you to learn more in the field/s of what you are interested in and also help you learn what has helped them along their way, which is usually the little set backs they have grown from.

After spending a few hours in a room filled with people I had never met before but had come together for similar interests this weekend, I realized how powerful being in that  space was.

All of a sudden you feel like you fit. All of a sudden you feel this feeling of being safe amongst a tribe. You feel supported, and that empowers you to be your true authentic self.

What a feeling!

I walked out of the event feeling “I need to do more to share my knowledge and gifts” that “I need to trust myself” more with what I do, and know that I am not alone in my way of thinking.

Your tribe is like your family, and the amazing thing about being a human being is that you can choose and have free choice in who you would like to spend your time with. You can choose to surround yourself with people that uplift you and support you in a loving way or you can choose to have those that are less inspiring. We know growth is hard for many people and change can be threatening to their comfort levels….but I know who I would rather be around 🙂

Don’t be afraid to lose some friends in your life. You are just making space for some awesomeness to come in.

Don’t be afraid to change locations, cities and workplaces. You are moving to places that are more aligned with where you want grow.

Don’t be afraid to reach out to people in your field you have never met before. They were once where you are now.

Don’t be afraid to join new groups, organizations, and communities. Like attracts like.

Your vibe attracts your tribe!

Make yourself available, put yourself out there, and don’t fear change. The right people will let you know if you are not doing enough to get where you want to go and nudge you accordingly to get you there.

One final note…don’t take advice from people who have never changed careers, pursued their dreams or faced their fears. Want to move in life? Then get with the movers and shakers of this world and a few dreamers…we all need those in our lives.

 

 

Hips don’t lie…seriously!

Let’s face it, after teenagehood and entering into the adult world, it is almost a given that tight hips are a way of life.

There are the few exceptions from the rule but most of us including myself struggle with that stiffness around the pelvic region, and it’s deeper than tight hip flexors and psoas muscle, which mind you is known as the muscle of the soul.

You could say it’s a mixed bag of things with not stretching enough as our bodies grow, sitting all day, running too much, wearing heels, bone structure, the list can go on, but one thing to add here is the element of EMOTIONS.

Our hips are one of the greatest emotional storage containers in our bodies and we can store some of our deepest vulnerabilities in them. We store memories, emotional pain and energy from our partners current and past, and childhood trauma in the fascia (connective tissue).

What tight hips can also mean:

  • Fearing the future – living up to our own expectations (front of hips)
  • Fear of relationships – romantic and work
  • Emotional and physical trauma – childbirth
  • Chakra imbalance (sacral) – connected to sexuality, desires, pleasure and procreation. Ability to let go
  • Inability to love yourself – to be fully open
  • Holding onto the past – back of the hips (lower back/ glutes)

Through my own experience of hip pain and having to go through surgery to heal the physical damage, the real healing and opening of my hips came through many hours of breath work, specific yoga postures (tree pose [pic above], pigeon pose, low lunge, spinal twists, dancers pose) and releasing my energetic blocks through healing work. I can assure you it wasn’t an overnight job, but I got back to walking and running free of hip pain, and back to competing at higher levels.

Learning to be OK with the tightness is in itself a way of healing as you become mindful and free of judgement and expectation on where you are and where you want to be.

The hips are also connected to the brain via the central nervous system, so what you think and believe in carries on into those areas.

Yoga + breath + mindfulness = happy hips 🙂

Speak your truth even if they don’t like it

Whether it’s right or wrong or we agree with it or not, it is up to us to make a decision on what feels right for us to either take on board, or leave it with all the other info that is out there.

Sometimes we have beliefs and ideas that are so ingrained in us that we don’t realize how we actually perceive things.

Nope, you may not like everything you hear but it’s all just information right?

Whether it’s right or wrong or we agree with it or not, it is up to us to make a decision on what feels right for us to either take on board, or leave it with all the other info that is out there.

Sometimes we have beliefs and ideas that are so ingrained in us that we don’t realize how we actually perceive things.

We now live in a time where everything is literally out our fingertips.

I was just taking a moment today admiring at how the world is because of the internet. We have data at our fingertips. If we want to find a book we can order it online or head into a bookstore ourselves. It’s all there, accessible like never before.

Perhaps there is too much information for us to get through. We are bombarded daily with media sites, subliminal advertising, news, human talk and everything we scroll through in our phones and laptops. System overload!

I don’t blame you if you have no idea what is actually real and what is fiction…I am probably half way in that thought pattern myself. Truth has been blended with “alternative facts”, reality is hidden through films and books, and journalists have lost their reputation as reputable sources.

If you believe in something say it. If you know something that another person doesn’t, talk about it. Your friends may not agree with you on 99% of the things you say (if that is the case it might be time to get new friends), but that 1% may help them, it may be a seed that gets planted that grows when the time is right.

If you are adamant on your beliefs ask yourself:
Why is that? Where did my beliefs come from? Do they serve me? Do they reflect the person I am today?

It is OK to change your beliefs, in fact it is healthy to do so. It is OK to change your mind. (I didn’t always like spicy food but now I do, the same goes for spinach). It’s OK to grow and to want to know more, it’s a part of life.

Learn, learn, and keep learning. As your mind expands with new knowledge you will find what feels right for you, you will see through the facade of false headlines, through panic and fear, and you will find truth in a world of charlatans, gossip and Chinese whispers. The heart is never wrong…follow it.

Who’s accountable?

“It’s her fault, she made me angry and I lashed out!”  Ummm, well actually this is not completely true and would you hate me if I told you that it was YOU that made YOU lash out?

She only made you become aware of the anger that was already residing within you and her words/actions hit your “angry pain” button.

Yes it’s true, no one else can make you feel a certain way except for you as an individual. We can get mad about people disrespecting us, taking us for granted, and ignoring us, but we can only change how we react to them, not in how they choose to treat us. A little bit like “don’t let your happiness be controlled by something you can’t control.”

What is within us can only come to light, just like orange juice can only come from the inside of an orange and not apple or pineapple juice.  No one can pass on anger to us like a baton or a side dish, it is something that is hiding deep within that gets triggered by a memory in our brain and in our body’s cells.

Taking responsibility for your emotions is one of the most empowering things you can ever do. You take power back from the emotion/s and own the way you feel. You become present to how you are feeling and realize that those emotions are yours and they can be changed through conscious awareness.

You can also heal these emotions as you bring awareness to them within the body. As we know emotions are energy that can become trapped in the body if they are not processed at the time they are felt.

It is quite easy to pass responsibility for how we feel and for the state we are in mentally, emotionally and physically. As grown adults we are aware that we can change our internal and external environments through our choices,and if you are not, well I guess you just became aware!

Now responsibility goes beyond juts owning your emotions. It is about accepting that you are at this point in your life through your own decisions, level of work and your belief systems.

The type of relationships you create in your life are through your conscious and unconscious decisions.

The level of happiness in your life is a conscious choice of how you see yourself.

The type of environment you live in is a reflection of your choices on what you like to be around.

Your health status is all about what your lifestyle choices.

Your travels are through your conscious choices to pick those destinations.

Taking accountability and responsibility for your life gives you the driver seat in which way you take direction. It stops others from controlling you on various levels; financially,emotionally, mentally and in career.

Take back your power, empower yourself to becoming who you desire to be, create your dreams and goals into reality and account yourself for making those things happen.

Blaming others can almost be labelled immature. This is what growing up into becoming a responsible adult really means and not just a legal right to buy alcohol and drive because you’re over 18.

The choice is yours.

 

Support is more than just a push up bra

Well, sometimes we just need a hand. We have exhausted our own engines and booster buttons, and we need some encouragement from those around us.

Sometimes support comes in the strangest of ways (ie. social media), but it is welcomed nonetheless.

Our very first supporters in life are usually our parents and family environment. As we grow older it expands to our friends, school environment, teachers, fellow team members and so on.

Then we hit adulthood. Things can change greatly with life commitments, new family additions, new locations and different time zones. Support can dwindle and create feelings of unworthiness, and in many cases we push away support due to our pride.

Support in life is essential to moving forward and growing. It comes from a place of love, and that is the essential core of all things. Without love, it won’t work and it won’t last.

Take a look at your body for example. Hundreds of billions of cells support each other for your body to function every single day, and your body alone is a support vessel for your soul to carry out life experiences. Without bones, muscles, tissues, fuel, reproduction and energy systems you could not exist.

Support is instrumental to being happy, healthy, successful and in growth. It is nature’s way.

Just take a look at animals and how they support each other when they are being hunted down by predators. Even trees are known to rest their branches on other trees for support as they sleep at night. What about humans coming together in times of need? It is ingrained in life.

Support isn’t always monetary and it’s not just found online. It can be from a simple phone call to ask how one is, to babysitting for the next few hours while your friend works on her new online bikini business. The smallest gesture can be the greatest leap for another.

We all need some guidance. We all need some help. We all need some advice in our careers, relationships and with ourselves at times. We can even strengthen bonds when we ask for support. Honestly, how good does it feel when someone you care about asks you for your time and help?

So in closing this little post today, make it a point on your weekly goals for this week to send some love to your friends, and let them know you are available for help if they require. Take an extra 10mins with your colleague at work to ease their stress levels (this may also be you that needs that extra 10mins). Help promote your favourite food company’s new product that you love…somebody else’s taste buds might just benefit.

We are all in this together. Support what you believe in, support with what you are able to, and as life has it, what goes around comes back to kiss you.