Shouldering pain

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

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Seriously who doesn’t have shoulder pain?

I look at school kids these days walking like turtles with their poor little growing spines carrying more and more every year…I thought laptops/ iPads were meant to ease the load of school books, never mind all their school issues and puberty stages to add to that load

Toddlers, shopping bags, handbags, laptop bags, they are all either on one shoulder or both of them. Then add some work stress, family commitments, deadlines, school fees, an old tennis shoulder injury, and some financial stress, and we have some real weight on those shoulders to carry!

It is no wonder your shoulders are hunched over and feeling heavy with the weight of the world sitting on them.

Physical pain is the body telling you quietly that there are some stuff you have going on that you’re not quite dealing with. Now how loud that little voice is will really depend on how long you leave those little things void.

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Pain in the shoulders can relate to a few things:

  • weight of the world
  • holding onto too much strain, stress, worry
  • feeling insecure, unsure, overwhelmed, sad, rejected, distrustful, and discouraged
  • droopy shoulders – lack of fun and joy
  • seriousness
  • focus on problems not solutions
  • accumulated anger creates chronic tension in the shoulders, neck and arms

To be honest I think we all carry way too much on our shoulders. It’s time to shrug the weight off and free yourself from the heaviness your bear down on your body – physically, mentally, and emotionally.

I see the weight on people’s shoulders in yoga class. I see it in the children who are carrying our futures problems. I see the sadness in our forgotten older generations that a society has pushed aside. I see it in the posture of abandoned animals. I see it in the broken bodies of office workers who slouch all day over technology and a cyber world that is slowly killing their spirit. I see it in the body language of depressed people as they walk around. I see it in my own body language when I get frustrated and communicate by shrugging my shoulders rather than communicating.

Oh boy does our body speak for us in communicating to others what is really going on with us. Just paying a little attention to someones posture and body language will reveal a lot.

Begin with deep breathing to begin to loosen tension in the body. Visualize those heavy weights you carry begin to fall off like nothing, and feel the softness and warmth return to the shoulders. roll them around, roll your neck and release that rigidity in those areas. A stiff, sore neck usually means refusing to see the other person’s perspective, stuck in your ways, withholding statements.

Release fear, anger, stress, and worry, and install peace, calm, relaxation, patience, support, and compassion.

Stand tall, stand proud and stand confident. Those who have tall posture and strong shoulders are also less likely to be attacked and victimized. This was mentioned by criminals who were interviewed on how they looked for their victims, by assessing their posture, arm movement and level of awareness.

Want to know more about the yin and yang side of the shoulder? Take a read of Does Your Body Lie?

Do you like nobody else does

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

You are awesome just the way you are, so before you go ahead and imitate someone’s method of life, how about working on your already awesome talents and skills. You’ve already got all the tools you need, you just need to remember how to use them.

Too often we get caught up in what other people are doing, their lifestyle, their happiness, their success, their physicality, and their online social media, but have you checked out how awesome your life actually is?

Whether it be you being a parent (kudos to you for bringing souls into this world and nurturing their growth in the best way you know how to), or you working damn hard at your job because you enjoy it, or you having an amazing group of friends that are your rocks throughout all of your life’s adventures, or perhaps it’s the fact that you can say “fuck it” to life and hop on a train/ plane and go where your heart desires….what you are, and what you have created your life to be is amazing (even if you’re in that shitty part right now).

Sometimes we just need a little reminder on who we are, what we have and are creating is O.K.

You don’t need to be more than who you already are. You don’t need to do more to fit in or to be accepted. You don’t need to fit into size blah to be beautiful or handsome, or need to have crystal blue eyes.

Once you accept yourself as you are and be more than OK with it, what you aspire to attain and achieve will happen naturally and organically in the right time.

People will also be attracted to your security and confidence. It’s that saying that you hear people say”I don’t know what it is but there is something about you”. THAT is who you are at the core and allow that YOU to be seen and felt, because vibes don’t lie!

Stop rushing the process, stop thinking you need to be anywhere than where you are, and stay away from any plastic surgeons or magazines that will make you feel less than and that you need some work.

Be you. Be YOUnique. Just BE and shine your light.

Are you doing what makes you happy?

Your breath is your reality check. You waking up daily is your 24hours to make something positive in your day. You just being here and creating a difference in someone’s life whether you know it or not is enough to create some happy vibes in your life.

This is a serious question to ask yourself!

Mediocrity is so last year and it’s honestly time to put those “I’m OK. I’m fine” feelings to bed!

We know that happy is an inside job, it’s a state of mind and an inner peace, but I know I’d rather be sitting on a beach watching the sunset than being stuck in traffic.

Life is not an easy journey and we didn’t just incarnate for that mediocre fairytale we have somehow been sold. We have come here to experience life, to feel emotions, to grow through our lessons and to join up with our soul mates (yes they do exist and there is not just one of them either!) and create moments.

We have also come here to have fun, to enjoy this blink of existence, to contribute our gifts to humanity and the earth, and help make this world a better place.

We have an average of about 80 years of life in us, of course this depends on where you are living and sorry to say that the male expires before the female, (check your lifespan here) and it really does go by quickly, judging by my first 30 years of life.

Life really is too short to do anything less than what makes you happy.

There will be times that you will have to eat humble pie, do things you don’t like, put up with people that test your patience (family gatherings are one of those times), swallow that bitter pill in the face of negative criticism and be nice to people that truly are just assholes, but at the end of it all it really doesn’t matter.

Just take a look at the picture in this post. It was named the happiest photo on the internet (I’m not kidding…google it!), and even the camel got involved in those happy positive vibes. That right there is happiness at it’s finest.

Have you actually asked yourself “what is it that makes me happy?”

Perhaps it’s singing in the karaoke bar with your mates dressed in 80’s gymwear; maybe it’s reading a book in the countryside all by yourself drinking hot chocolate with marshmallows; it could be a simple stroll with your loved one under the night sky; maybe it’s falling asleep in fresh bed sheets; maybe it’s closing 6 figure deals with your team at work; maybe it’s taking mixology lessons to get your espresso martini’s right; or as simple as switching off the phone on a Saturday night to chill with Netflix.

Just do it. Just do it. Just do it!

If there is anything good to come out of the brand Nike it’s that famous slogan.

Don’t wait for the death of a loved one, or a serious illness to shake you up out of your hamster wheel routine, it doesn’t need to get to that point for a reality check.

Your breath is your reality check. You waking up daily is your 24hours to make something positive in your day. You just being here and creating a difference in someone’s life whether you know it or not is enough to create some happy vibes in your life.

Don’t get bogged down by the media, do yourself a favour and avoid the news for a week, I assure you the world will still exist and you might just find something positive to talk about.

Got a pen? Got some paper? Good!

Start writing your “what makes me happy” list and start checking them off.

As the famous quote states “We are not here for a long time, we are here for a good time”.

Support is more than just a push up bra

Well, sometimes we just need a hand. We have exhausted our own engines and booster buttons, and we need some encouragement from those around us.

Sometimes support comes in the strangest of ways (ie. social media), but it is welcomed nonetheless.

Our very first supporters in life are usually our parents and family environment. As we grow older it expands to our friends, school environment, teachers, fellow team members and so on.

Then we hit adulthood. Things can change greatly with life commitments, new family additions, new locations and different time zones. Support can dwindle and create feelings of unworthiness, and in many cases we push away support due to our pride.

Support in life is essential to moving forward and growing. It comes from a place of love, and that is the essential core of all things. Without love, it won’t work and it won’t last.

Take a look at your body for example. Hundreds of billions of cells support each other for your body to function every single day, and your body alone is a support vessel for your soul to carry out life experiences. Without bones, muscles, tissues, fuel, reproduction and energy systems you could not exist.

Support is instrumental to being happy, healthy, successful and in growth. It is nature’s way.

Just take a look at animals and how they support each other when they are being hunted down by predators. Even trees are known to rest their branches on other trees for support as they sleep at night. What about humans coming together in times of need? It is ingrained in life.

Support isn’t always monetary and it’s not just found online. It can be from a simple phone call to ask how one is, to babysitting for the next few hours while your friend works on her new online bikini business. The smallest gesture can be the greatest leap for another.

We all need some guidance. We all need some help. We all need some advice in our careers, relationships and with ourselves at times. We can even strengthen bonds when we ask for support. Honestly, how good does it feel when someone you care about asks you for your time and help?

So in closing this little post today, make it a point on your weekly goals for this week to send some love to your friends, and let them know you are available for help if they require. Take an extra 10mins with your colleague at work to ease their stress levels (this may also be you that needs that extra 10mins). Help promote your favourite food company’s new product that you love…somebody else’s taste buds might just benefit.

We are all in this together. Support what you believe in, support with what you are able to, and as life has it, what goes around comes back to kiss you.

How to see the Badass in you

How often do we motivate and inspire others to keep going, to believe in themselves, to push through the challenges, and tell them ‘you got this’, yet rarely do the same for ourselves?

My hands go up for this one!

We are forever looking at others, admiring their life, wishing for what they have, and telling ourselves they we can never have that lifestyle, job, physique or relationship, because we don’t have the same luck, genes, education, and the list goes on.

STOP! JUST STOP!

What makes the person in that £1000 suit better than you?

What about that girl with the perfect hair, no effort make-up, amazing body, and god-like boyfriend?

How about the man who parked up in the latest Audi A5 in front of Planet Organic?

And what about the fitness couple that are posting pictures of their workouts, perfect arrangement of meals for the week, and envious travel pics on Instagram?

I can tell you this….Absofreakinlutely nothing! (what a word huh?)

Now I’m not talking about EGO here. Feeding your ego to make yourself THINK you’re good. No. I’m talking about the REAL you, your true self, the gem that you are, underneath all that skin, bone and tissue, the one that is pure soul and love.

You have the power to change the life you were born in to. You were given life by your parents to live out your craziest and wildest dreams, yet some of us have forgotten something very key that makes all of this possible…

BELIEF! Nobody has ever succeeded without it.

It’s going to take time to build, and like all those who you admire and help motivate, you are going to start doing for yourself.

You were born with a badass attitude. It was there before society and those around you, broke you down, and made you believe you weren’t good enough. But now it’s time to get your little soft butt up (because I’ve never known a badass to have one), and start building your confidence and dreams.

Learn to love yourself, and those things you seek, you will become. So here goes…

Guide to A Badass Self (in no particular order)

  • Change to a positive mindset- this is where it all begins (thoughts & self-talk)

  • Congratulate yourself on getting thus far, and for all your achievements.

  • Stay true to you- there isn’t anyone like you, and that is your biggest asset

  • Write down some goals- visualize them, write them, work at them

  • Work on yourself- nutrition, exercise, emotions, meditate, self-development courses

  • Write down all the things you like about yourself and what you are good at

  • Lose some friends- let go of those negative leeches and make way for some new badasses

  • Focus on you- forget what she/he is doing over there. Over there is not where you’re going

  • Learn to laugh- mostly at yourself and at life’s crappy moments

  • Vent & Vex- get your frustrations out, heal & move on. Holding on is what’s holding you back

  • Stay classy- too many butts and not enough brains being displayed

  • Do what makes you happy- because a smile is the sexiest thing you will ever wear

     

Remember change takes time. Be patient and keep focusing on the person you want to be. Being a badass means you have your own back at all times, no sticks, stones or words will ever hurt you.

Become so infectious that your name alone changes the vibration of the world

Now that, is how to see the best in you!

YOU DESERVE IT! YOU ARE MAGICAL! YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL! JUST BELIEVE IN YOU

Theodora x