Affirm your beliefs

Beliefs are your software to your programming (the way you think, act, behave, perceive reality, the world, yourself, etc) and they can either help you grow in a positive way or they can sabotage you.

We run from a program that was developed by the time we were 6yrs of age, and unless you have done any mental work you probably haven’t upgraded your software to reflect your physical growth!

Beliefs are your software to your programming (the way you think, act, behave, perceive reality, the world, yourself, etc) and they can either help you grow in a positive way or they can sabotage you.

Whether you were supported, loved, abandoned, secure, or grew up in an unstable environment, we all have beliefs according to our individual experiences. Even your siblings who may have grown up in the same household with the same parents will have different beliefs to you.

The good news is that your  B E L I E F S  C A N  B E  C H A N G E D!

Recognizing and becoming aware of your beliefs around various aspects of life such as career, self worth, wealth, relationships, property, finances, goals, love, and self esteem, is a step toward changing your programming to reflect who you truly are and want to be/achieve.

One way of creating a change to this system is the use of affirmations. Affirmations are statements that you say to yourself on daily basis until it becomes truth.

Now let’s take a belief that some of you may relate to I am not good enough.

Some affirmations to change this into positive self worth.

  • I approve of myself and feel great about myself
  • I am a winner and I attract only success
  • I am more than enough
  • I am successful
  • I value my self and all my efforts
  • I deserve happiness and joy
  • Outward results do not reflect my self worth or success
  • I love and forgive myself
  • I am proud of myself and all that I have accomplished.

By repeating one or some of these affirmations multiple times daily, and saying them with intention, your brain will replace these over your old ones and new beliefs will be created.

Affirmations also work well with tapping techniques (E.F.T, Kinesiology) and doing inner child work to release energy blocks and trauma in all levels of the self.

Remember your cells hear everything so be mindful of the thoughts you are constantly having and what you keep saying to yourself.

Shouldering pain

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Seriously who doesn’t have shoulder pain?

I look at school kids these days walking like turtles with their poor little growing spines carrying more and more every year…I thought laptops/ iPads were meant to ease the load of school books, never mind all their school issues and puberty stages to add to that load

Toddlers, shopping bags, handbags, laptop bags, they are all either on one shoulder or both of them. Then add some work stress, family commitments, deadlines, school fees, an old tennis shoulder injury, and some financial stress, and we have some real weight on those shoulders to carry!

It is no wonder your shoulders are hunched over and feeling heavy with the weight of the world sitting on them.

Physical pain is the body telling you quietly that there are some stuff you have going on that you’re not quite dealing with. Now how loud that little voice is will really depend on how long you leave those little things void.

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Pain in the shoulders can relate to a few things:

  • weight of the world
  • holding onto too much strain, stress, worry
  • feeling insecure, unsure, overwhelmed, sad, rejected, distrustful, and discouraged
  • droopy shoulders – lack of fun and joy
  • seriousness
  • focus on problems not solutions
  • accumulated anger creates chronic tension in the shoulders, neck and arms

To be honest I think we all carry way too much on our shoulders. It’s time to shrug the weight off and free yourself from the heaviness your bear down on your body – physically, mentally, and emotionally.

I see the weight on people’s shoulders in yoga class. I see it in the children who are carrying our futures problems. I see the sadness in our forgotten older generations that a society has pushed aside. I see it in the posture of abandoned animals. I see it in the broken bodies of office workers who slouch all day over technology and a cyber world that is slowly killing their spirit. I see it in the body language of depressed people as they walk around. I see it in my own body language when I get frustrated and communicate by shrugging my shoulders rather than communicating.

Oh boy does our body speak for us in communicating to others what is really going on with us. Just paying a little attention to someones posture and body language will reveal a lot.

Begin with deep breathing to begin to loosen tension in the body. Visualize those heavy weights you carry begin to fall off like nothing, and feel the softness and warmth return to the shoulders. roll them around, roll your neck and release that rigidity in those areas. A stiff, sore neck usually means refusing to see the other person’s perspective, stuck in your ways, withholding statements.

Release fear, anger, stress, and worry, and install peace, calm, relaxation, patience, support, and compassion.

Stand tall, stand proud and stand confident. Those who have tall posture and strong shoulders are also less likely to be attacked and victimized. This was mentioned by criminals who were interviewed on how they looked for their victims, by assessing their posture, arm movement and level of awareness.

Want to know more about the yin and yang side of the shoulder? Take a read of Does Your Body Lie?

Do you like nobody else does

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

So you might have pigeon toed feet, or your left eye slants more than your right, you may have little quirks when you are in public and get a tad uncomfortable, or maybe you say “umm and like” too much when you talk, but who cares…we are all odd, uneven and strange.

You are awesome just the way you are, so before you go ahead and imitate someone’s method of life, how about working on your already awesome talents and skills. You’ve already got all the tools you need, you just need to remember how to use them.

Too often we get caught up in what other people are doing, their lifestyle, their happiness, their success, their physicality, and their online social media, but have you checked out how awesome your life actually is?

Whether it be you being a parent (kudos to you for bringing souls into this world and nurturing their growth in the best way you know how to), or you working damn hard at your job because you enjoy it, or you having an amazing group of friends that are your rocks throughout all of your life’s adventures, or perhaps it’s the fact that you can say “fuck it” to life and hop on a train/ plane and go where your heart desires….what you are, and what you have created your life to be is amazing (even if you’re in that shitty part right now).

Sometimes we just need a little reminder on who we are, what we have and are creating is O.K.

You don’t need to be more than who you already are. You don’t need to do more to fit in or to be accepted. You don’t need to fit into size blah to be beautiful or handsome, or need to have crystal blue eyes.

Once you accept yourself as you are and be more than OK with it, what you aspire to attain and achieve will happen naturally and organically in the right time.

People will also be attracted to your security and confidence. It’s that saying that you hear people say”I don’t know what it is but there is something about you”. THAT is who you are at the core and allow that YOU to be seen and felt, because vibes don’t lie!

Stop rushing the process, stop thinking you need to be anywhere than where you are, and stay away from any plastic surgeons or magazines that will make you feel less than and that you need some work.

Be you. Be YOUnique. Just BE and shine your light.

Are you doing what makes you happy?

Your breath is your reality check. You waking up daily is your 24hours to make something positive in your day. You just being here and creating a difference in someone’s life whether you know it or not is enough to create some happy vibes in your life.

This is a serious question to ask yourself!

Mediocrity is so last year and it’s honestly time to put those “I’m OK. I’m fine” feelings to bed!

We know that happy is an inside job, it’s a state of mind and an inner peace, but I know I’d rather be sitting on a beach watching the sunset than being stuck in traffic.

Life is not an easy journey and we didn’t just incarnate for that mediocre fairytale we have somehow been sold. We have come here to experience life, to feel emotions, to grow through our lessons and to join up with our soul mates (yes they do exist and there is not just one of them either!) and create moments.

We have also come here to have fun, to enjoy this blink of existence, to contribute our gifts to humanity and the earth, and help make this world a better place.

We have an average of about 80 years of life in us, of course this depends on where you are living and sorry to say that the male expires before the female, (check your lifespan here) and it really does go by quickly, judging by my first 30 years of life.

Life really is too short to do anything less than what makes you happy.

There will be times that you will have to eat humble pie, do things you don’t like, put up with people that test your patience (family gatherings are one of those times), swallow that bitter pill in the face of negative criticism and be nice to people that truly are just assholes, but at the end of it all it really doesn’t matter.

Just take a look at the picture in this post. It was named the happiest photo on the internet (I’m not kidding…google it!), and even the camel got involved in those happy positive vibes. That right there is happiness at it’s finest.

Have you actually asked yourself “what is it that makes me happy?”

Perhaps it’s singing in the karaoke bar with your mates dressed in 80’s gymwear; maybe it’s reading a book in the countryside all by yourself drinking hot chocolate with marshmallows; it could be a simple stroll with your loved one under the night sky; maybe it’s falling asleep in fresh bed sheets; maybe it’s closing 6 figure deals with your team at work; maybe it’s taking mixology lessons to get your espresso martini’s right; or as simple as switching off the phone on a Saturday night to chill with Netflix.

Just do it. Just do it. Just do it!

If there is anything good to come out of the brand Nike it’s that famous slogan.

Don’t wait for the death of a loved one, or a serious illness to shake you up out of your hamster wheel routine, it doesn’t need to get to that point for a reality check.

Your breath is your reality check. You waking up daily is your 24hours to make something positive in your day. You just being here and creating a difference in someone’s life whether you know it or not is enough to create some happy vibes in your life.

Don’t get bogged down by the media, do yourself a favour and avoid the news for a week, I assure you the world will still exist and you might just find something positive to talk about.

Got a pen? Got some paper? Good!

Start writing your “what makes me happy” list and start checking them off.

As the famous quote states “We are not here for a long time, we are here for a good time”.

Hips don’t lie…seriously!

Let’s face it, after teenagehood and entering into the adult world, it is almost a given that tight hips are a way of life.

There are the few exceptions from the rule but most of us including myself struggle with that stiffness around the pelvic region, and it’s deeper than tight hip flexors and psoas muscle, which mind you is known as the muscle of the soul.

You could say it’s a mixed bag of things with not stretching enough as our bodies grow, sitting all day, running too much, wearing heels, bone structure, the list can go on, but one thing to add here is the element of EMOTIONS.

Our hips are one of the greatest emotional storage containers in our bodies and we can store some of our deepest vulnerabilities in them. We store memories, emotional pain and energy from our partners current and past, and childhood trauma in the fascia (connective tissue).

What tight hips can also mean:

  • Fearing the future – living up to our own expectations (front of hips)
  • Fear of relationships – romantic and work
  • Emotional and physical trauma – childbirth
  • Chakra imbalance (sacral) – connected to sexuality, desires, pleasure and procreation. Ability to let go
  • Inability to love yourself – to be fully open
  • Holding onto the past – back of the hips (lower back/ glutes)

Through my own experience of hip pain and having to go through surgery to heal the physical damage, the real healing and opening of my hips came through many hours of breath work, specific yoga postures (tree pose [pic above], pigeon pose, low lunge, spinal twists, dancers pose) and releasing my energetic blocks through healing work. I can assure you it wasn’t an overnight job, but I got back to walking and running free of hip pain, and back to competing at higher levels.

Learning to be OK with the tightness is in itself a way of healing as you become mindful and free of judgement and expectation on where you are and where you want to be.

The hips are also connected to the brain via the central nervous system, so what you think and believe in carries on into those areas.

Yoga + breath + mindfulness = happy hips 🙂

What’s your environment?

Eating fresh produce, drinking water and exercising daily supplies your body with a healthy internal environment to operate well.

Reading books, studying, learning new skills and topics nourishes your mind and provides a healthy, positive environment for your brain to function.

Surrounding yourself with supportive, loving, and encouraging people provides you with a safe space to be yourself and grow.

Mother nature provides you with a clean, healthy, nourishing and supportive environment for you to live in when in her natural state.

Environments are everything in life from plants to home to science labs.

What I haven’t yet mentioned is the fact that your body is filled with trillions of cells and whatever goes into your body physically, energetically, and mentally, provides a type of environment for those cells to live in.

Cells reproduce all the time. Some last for a few seconds and some last up until your last breath.

Now, have you ever stopped to think about the environment you supply for these cells to grow in? This could be the kind of food you eat, the products you put on your body, to the type of people you surround yourself with.

What about your thoughts and emotions you have every day? Are they positive and encouraging, or are they limiting and counterproductive?

What you subconsciously and consciously think about is what you are ultimately creating in your life. I think they call that Law Of Attraction/ Manifesting.

Want to change the internal environment of your body to be healthier and more positive?

Well I’ve got a few affirmations/ statements to help you achieve that; but before you go ahead and say them, make sure your intentions are pure and free of expectation, because that will keep you exactly where you are!

  • I am happiness
  • I am health and vitality
  • I love and accept myself as I am
  • I love my body, take good care of it and radiate beauty
  • Every cell in my body is health conscious
  • I am gratitude
  • I am love
  • I am positive in all aspects of my life
  • and anything else you would like to make your own in I AM form.

Commit to saying some/one of these daily whenever it feels right to you, and see how they make you feel on the inside. Your environment doesn’t change overnight, nor in just a week, but give yourself a chance to create some positivity in your life.

As within so without.

Who’s accountable?

“It’s her fault, she made me angry and I lashed out!”  Ummm, well actually this is not completely true and would you hate me if I told you that it was YOU that made YOU lash out?

She only made you become aware of the anger that was already residing within you and her words/actions hit your “angry pain” button.

Yes it’s true, no one else can make you feel a certain way except for you as an individual. We can get mad about people disrespecting us, taking us for granted, and ignoring us, but we can only change how we react to them, not in how they choose to treat us. A little bit like “don’t let your happiness be controlled by something you can’t control.”

What is within us can only come to light, just like orange juice can only come from the inside of an orange and not apple or pineapple juice.  No one can pass on anger to us like a baton or a side dish, it is something that is hiding deep within that gets triggered by a memory in our brain and in our body’s cells.

Taking responsibility for your emotions is one of the most empowering things you can ever do. You take power back from the emotion/s and own the way you feel. You become present to how you are feeling and realize that those emotions are yours and they can be changed through conscious awareness.

You can also heal these emotions as you bring awareness to them within the body. As we know emotions are energy that can become trapped in the body if they are not processed at the time they are felt.

It is quite easy to pass responsibility for how we feel and for the state we are in mentally, emotionally and physically. As grown adults we are aware that we can change our internal and external environments through our choices,and if you are not, well I guess you just became aware!

Now responsibility goes beyond juts owning your emotions. It is about accepting that you are at this point in your life through your own decisions, level of work and your belief systems.

The type of relationships you create in your life are through your conscious and unconscious decisions.

The level of happiness in your life is a conscious choice of how you see yourself.

The type of environment you live in is a reflection of your choices on what you like to be around.

Your health status is all about what your lifestyle choices.

Your travels are through your conscious choices to pick those destinations.

Taking accountability and responsibility for your life gives you the driver seat in which way you take direction. It stops others from controlling you on various levels; financially,emotionally, mentally and in career.

Take back your power, empower yourself to becoming who you desire to be, create your dreams and goals into reality and account yourself for making those things happen.

Blaming others can almost be labelled immature. This is what growing up into becoming a responsible adult really means and not just a legal right to buy alcohol and drive because you’re over 18.

The choice is yours.