Stop forcing nature

What you do need is a balance of Intention + Action + Patience

Let’s be honest, no matter how quick you drink that detox tea, or how many green veggies you cram in a day, if it takes your red blood cells alone 4 months to regenerate then it’s going to take some time for your health and body to change.

Just like everything in life there is a timing for things, and patience really does need to be a virtue in that “in-between” phase.

Now don’t take the first 2 paragraphs literally and sit back on your little buns and do nothing and expect change to happen. No, that is wishful thinking and taking manifesting to a Dreamworks animation film level. (ie. dream state/ non-existent/ crystal ball level)

What you do need is a balance of Intention + Action + Patience.

Intention… is the energy and purpose behind your goal, and this needs to be on the positive side (believe in your system/ plan/ goal/ dream/ yourself)

Action…is what you need to carry out on a consistent basis for your goals to be realized. Without action you are just wishing and praying on faith

Patience… this doesn’t really need to be explained but it’s something that you will need to carry out when you’re internet connection is slow, and when things (sh*t) just happen along the way!

NATURE FLOWS!!!

We get so caught up in carrying out the first 2 elements in life that we forget about the 3rd…PATIENCE!

When things are forced it goes against nature’s way. Life naturally flows, yet our desire to have things almost instantly is creating a loss of depth, value, and trust within us and our process.

Sometimes you just need to let go, so whatever you are working on at the moment, take 5 on it!

Take a few deep breaths, look at it’s value in your life (is it something that is benefiting you or holding you back?) and either take action on it or don’t.

YES inaction is sometimes a key element to your goals working out. We can become so focused that we miss the bigger picture in our lives. Sometimes we just need to go back to nature, look at how it deals with all it’s forces, seasons, and elements and learn from it.

Be patient with yourself in the process. Stop forcing change to happen. Let go of things that aren’t serving you, and truly listen to your inner guidance.

Shouldering pain

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Seriously who doesn’t have shoulder pain?

I look at school kids these days walking like turtles with their poor little growing spines carrying more and more every year…I thought laptops/ iPads were meant to ease the load of school books, never mind all their school issues and puberty stages to add to that load

Toddlers, shopping bags, handbags, laptop bags, they are all either on one shoulder or both of them. Then add some work stress, family commitments, deadlines, school fees, an old tennis shoulder injury, and some financial stress, and we have some real weight on those shoulders to carry!

It is no wonder your shoulders are hunched over and feeling heavy with the weight of the world sitting on them.

Physical pain is the body telling you quietly that there are some stuff you have going on that you’re not quite dealing with. Now how loud that little voice is will really depend on how long you leave those little things void.

Shoulders tell people how we feel about ourselves. Strong, wide, and lifted shoulders give off confidence and masculinity like you see in the military, and droopy, slouched shoulders show lack of confidence and worry.

Pain in the shoulders can relate to a few things:

  • weight of the world
  • holding onto too much strain, stress, worry
  • feeling insecure, unsure, overwhelmed, sad, rejected, distrustful, and discouraged
  • droopy shoulders – lack of fun and joy
  • seriousness
  • focus on problems not solutions
  • accumulated anger creates chronic tension in the shoulders, neck and arms

To be honest I think we all carry way too much on our shoulders. It’s time to shrug the weight off and free yourself from the heaviness your bear down on your body – physically, mentally, and emotionally.

I see the weight on people’s shoulders in yoga class. I see it in the children who are carrying our futures problems. I see the sadness in our forgotten older generations that a society has pushed aside. I see it in the posture of abandoned animals. I see it in the broken bodies of office workers who slouch all day over technology and a cyber world that is slowly killing their spirit. I see it in the body language of depressed people as they walk around. I see it in my own body language when I get frustrated and communicate by shrugging my shoulders rather than communicating.

Oh boy does our body speak for us in communicating to others what is really going on with us. Just paying a little attention to someones posture and body language will reveal a lot.

Begin with deep breathing to begin to loosen tension in the body. Visualize those heavy weights you carry begin to fall off like nothing, and feel the softness and warmth return to the shoulders. roll them around, roll your neck and release that rigidity in those areas. A stiff, sore neck usually means refusing to see the other person’s perspective, stuck in your ways, withholding statements.

Release fear, anger, stress, and worry, and install peace, calm, relaxation, patience, support, and compassion.

Stand tall, stand proud and stand confident. Those who have tall posture and strong shoulders are also less likely to be attacked and victimized. This was mentioned by criminals who were interviewed on how they looked for their victims, by assessing their posture, arm movement and level of awareness.

Want to know more about the yin and yang side of the shoulder? Take a read of Does Your Body Lie?

What’s your environment?

Eating fresh produce, drinking water and exercising daily supplies your body with a healthy internal environment to operate well.

Reading books, studying, learning new skills and topics nourishes your mind and provides a healthy, positive environment for your brain to function.

Surrounding yourself with supportive, loving, and encouraging people provides you with a safe space to be yourself and grow.

Mother nature provides you with a clean, healthy, nourishing and supportive environment for you to live in when in her natural state.

Environments are everything in life from plants to home to science labs.

What I haven’t yet mentioned is the fact that your body is filled with trillions of cells and whatever goes into your body physically, energetically, and mentally, provides a type of environment for those cells to live in.

Cells reproduce all the time. Some last for a few seconds and some last up until your last breath.

Now, have you ever stopped to think about the environment you supply for these cells to grow in? This could be the kind of food you eat, the products you put on your body, to the type of people you surround yourself with.

What about your thoughts and emotions you have every day? Are they positive and encouraging, or are they limiting and counterproductive?

What you subconsciously and consciously think about is what you are ultimately creating in your life. I think they call that Law Of Attraction/ Manifesting.

Want to change the internal environment of your body to be healthier and more positive?

Well I’ve got a few affirmations/ statements to help you achieve that; but before you go ahead and say them, make sure your intentions are pure and free of expectation, because that will keep you exactly where you are!

  • I am happiness
  • I am health and vitality
  • I love and accept myself as I am
  • I love my body, take good care of it and radiate beauty
  • Every cell in my body is health conscious
  • I am gratitude
  • I am love
  • I am positive in all aspects of my life
  • and anything else you would like to make your own in I AM form.

Commit to saying some/one of these daily whenever it feels right to you, and see how they make you feel on the inside. Your environment doesn’t change overnight, nor in just a week, but give yourself a chance to create some positivity in your life.

As within so without.

Who’s accountable?

“It’s her fault, she made me angry and I lashed out!”  Ummm, well actually this is not completely true and would you hate me if I told you that it was YOU that made YOU lash out?

She only made you become aware of the anger that was already residing within you and her words/actions hit your “angry pain” button.

Yes it’s true, no one else can make you feel a certain way except for you as an individual. We can get mad about people disrespecting us, taking us for granted, and ignoring us, but we can only change how we react to them, not in how they choose to treat us. A little bit like “don’t let your happiness be controlled by something you can’t control.”

What is within us can only come to light, just like orange juice can only come from the inside of an orange and not apple or pineapple juice.  No one can pass on anger to us like a baton or a side dish, it is something that is hiding deep within that gets triggered by a memory in our brain and in our body’s cells.

Taking responsibility for your emotions is one of the most empowering things you can ever do. You take power back from the emotion/s and own the way you feel. You become present to how you are feeling and realize that those emotions are yours and they can be changed through conscious awareness.

You can also heal these emotions as you bring awareness to them within the body. As we know emotions are energy that can become trapped in the body if they are not processed at the time they are felt.

It is quite easy to pass responsibility for how we feel and for the state we are in mentally, emotionally and physically. As grown adults we are aware that we can change our internal and external environments through our choices,and if you are not, well I guess you just became aware!

Now responsibility goes beyond juts owning your emotions. It is about accepting that you are at this point in your life through your own decisions, level of work and your belief systems.

The type of relationships you create in your life are through your conscious and unconscious decisions.

The level of happiness in your life is a conscious choice of how you see yourself.

The type of environment you live in is a reflection of your choices on what you like to be around.

Your health status is all about what your lifestyle choices.

Your travels are through your conscious choices to pick those destinations.

Taking accountability and responsibility for your life gives you the driver seat in which way you take direction. It stops others from controlling you on various levels; financially,emotionally, mentally and in career.

Take back your power, empower yourself to becoming who you desire to be, create your dreams and goals into reality and account yourself for making those things happen.

Blaming others can almost be labelled immature. This is what growing up into becoming a responsible adult really means and not just a legal right to buy alcohol and drive because you’re over 18.

The choice is yours.

 

How to get through the Ascension

After last week’s blog many of you got in touch and let me know that you were experiencing some and all of the ascension symptoms I had mentioned.

I was taken aback by some of your experiences and positive responses, and it was great to be able to go deeper with you all in talking about this collective conscious shift. Funnily enough as synchronicity will have it, unpacking my boxes last week I saw  The Ascension Mysteries by David Wilcock that I had purchased right before I left the UK to read once I got back to Australia. Timing couldn’t have been better.

So, it only makes sense to continue on this week with some tips to help you get through this ascension transition, or anyone else you may know of that will benefit from this information.

A site I found quite helpful in my research was AscensionSymptoms. It has a further detailed list of symptoms, what can cause them, and some YouTube links helping explain ascension further.

A small list of what you can do whilst your upgrade is happening:

  • Spend time in nature – DAILY with walks in the park, beach, nature hikes, barefoot on grass
  • Let go –  old thought patterns, emotions, negative beliefs. Some modalities that help  EFT, TEC, energy work/healing, life coaching, sound healing, affirmations.
  • Meditate – best time is in the morning after rising. You can also you guided meditations online.
  • Breathe deeply & Mindfulness (staying present) – connecting the breath with conscious inhalation & exhalation.  Helps clear the energy channels (nadis) in the body and helps controls the mind. By doing this you stay present in he NOW.
  • Salt baths/ Himalayan salt lamps – you can also sprinkle salt on your doorway entrances to keep negativity out of your house/flat/room. Leave for a day or two then hoover.
  • Avoid Fluoride – it calcifies your pineal gland which is key to using your higher senses and intuition. It also has many side effects on your health.
  • Essential Oils – frankincense, lavender, rose
  • Ask –  for guidance, protection and an uplift of your energy in challenging times. 

Take some time on your own to really connect with YOU, to listen to inner changes that may be happening and feel what your body needs during this period.

If you have any questions about changes that are happening with you, send me an email, would love to help!

Love + Fear

Love and Fear are the 2 basic emotions that we have. Whenever you take action, it is going to come from either one of these places. They are the Alpha and Omega of our emotional scale.

Scientists who recognize emotions from the use of different facial muscles (ie.Paul Eckman, Robert Plutchik, Charles Darwin) have gone from 7 basic human emotions (happiness, surprise, sadness, anger, disgust, fear, contempt), down to 4 (happiness, sadness, anger, fear). But no matter the faces we make, it is where our emotions originate from that is key.

Before I dive into this more, lets see what emotions really are.

  • Emotions bridge thoughts, feelings and actions
  • They are the body’s reaction to your mind
  • Control your thinking
  • Control your behaviour
  • Control your actions
  • They create chemical reactions in the body
  • Every emotion has its own vibration
  • They are internal responses to a thought

Emotions do a lot, and play a HUGE role in how we live our lives. Our emotions essentially run the quality of life we live, or deeper yet our THOUGHTS do.

It is the thoughts that we give our energy to that direct how we emotionally feel. You cannot think of truly positive, happy thoughts and be angry at the same time. The same goes for the opposite; to think about death, war, and starvation and be in a place of joy. (psychopaths may differ)

All emotions that go in between Love and Fear are just different versions of the same theme.

Happiness really is love, just look at a happy baby; no judgements just smiles.
Anger comes from a place of pain within, which either we experienced onto ourselves or from others and fear it.
Frustration is fear. Ask yourself why do you get frustrated, and then ask again on a deeper level why that bothers or affects you. It will again come from fear.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling our emotions. That is what we are here to do. To experience life fully and feel as much of it as we can in our experiences, in our interactions with others, and in our various types of relationships.

Emotions are just waves of energy that allow us to feel. The more you can begin to let go of negative thoughts, past traumatic experiences, and ultimately forgive yourself and others, the more you can live freely and experience life as it comes without fear.

A great quote from the book Conversations with God (book 1) that describes how we are in relationships when it comes to love.

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In the moment you pledge your highest love, you greet your greatest fear.
For the first thing you worry about after saying “i love you” is whether you’ll hear it back. And if you hear it back, then you begin immediately to worry that the love you have just found, you will lose. And so all action becomes a reaction- defense against loss” – Neale Donald Walsch

There is nothing to lose, but only to gain. If you lose something then it was no longer needed in your life, and it’s making way for the new.

There is nothing to fear, only to love. When you are i a state of fear, you are unwell, you weaken your immune system, you make irrational and reactive decisions. When you love you move forward in life and are strengthened, empowered, as love is your true essence, your natural state, and things happen from the heart.

What have you overcome that you once feared?

FEAR is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in, runs, hides, hoards and harms.
LOVE is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares and heals.

You always have a choice of what emotion you want to feel and experience. Remember it all starts with a thought.

The other side of you

You sit and observe the beautiful girl in the room. She is perfect in your eyes.

She has amazing shoes on, a great outfit, her hair is full and luscious, and you always wished for her kind of hair.

She has a very beautiful face, which is lit up by her perfect teeth and smile.

You adore her body and physique, and you say to yourself “she is lucky, she probably eats what she wants and is blessed with good genes”.

You begin to compare yourself to her, and look down and start judging yourself. Your confidence just fell through the floor, wishing you had picked out nicer clothes before you left home, even though you look great.

You put your drink down, excuse yourself and head to the ladies bathroom to compose yourself. You get your lip gloss, eyeliner, and mascara out, and stare at your reflection of the girl in the mirror.

How many times have us girls done this? Compared yourself to others by how they look, how their presence feels, what they are wearing and who their friends are. I am sure it is no different for men who feel the same way, and compare to other men in the room, or situations.

The minute we see someone who seemingly has their “shit together”, we feel bad about ourselves, magnify our flaws, and get frustrated where we are in our journey.

You may actually have all of the good traits of the “beautiful girl” in the above scenario, but we rarely see our own golden light and attributes.

What we don’t see when looking at others is their pain. The hardships endured, that they still may be enduring, and like most of us, carry it in silence.

Many beautiful girls, like most girls in population, have low self-esteem levels. Many of them sexually abused or assaulted in their younger years. Trauma being carried with them, that make-up and beautiful clothes only hide.

Toxic relationships that these girls keep getting involved in, because they see themselves as toxic on a deeper level. This isn’t always a belief they know they have, as it is on a sub-conscious level.

Looks don’t mean confidence.

Smiles don’t reflect happiness.

Great outfits and perfect make up hide emotional and physical scars.

Laughter masks the brokenness inside.

Flirting because dad didn’t teach you how to attract the right kind of love.

Crying yourself to sleep because you were told not to speak up when an older man touched you inappropriately.

Sound familiar? It was for me.

I have been toxic. I hated myself to the very core. I only respected myself as much as those cheating, lying boyfriends treated me

They only treated me a certain way because I allowed it…A difficult truth I needed to accept.

Drinking to forget my pain, even though I disliked alcohol and the way it made me feel.

Sleeping with men I didn’t like, because I wanted someone’s arms around me to make me feel loved, even if it was only for a night, and the sex rubbish.

Training myself into the ground until my body broke, because I needed to punish myself.

Seeing everyone else’s needs were met before mine, because they mattered and they were better than me.

Sabotaging good things and opportunities in my life because I didn’t deserve them.

That was the old me. Every point was exactly how I felt about myself. A broken girl who covered it so well, that she was able to be the motivation and inspiration for others because of the persona she gave.

We all have pain, trauma and past events that affect us to this day, whether we are aware of it or not. Your childhood and what you observed growing up, is what you base your beliefs on, how you carry out your daily life, and how your relationships evolve.

It is easy to sit and judge others by their looks and social status, but little do we know their story. Sometimes the very people you envy, are the very parts of yourself you need to heal.

One can only treat you the way you allow them to. People love pushing boundaries, and if you have none, then it might be time to set some up and avoid disappointments and heartbreak.

It is key for me to share some of my past and how I was, to help you in your journey of healing and change. To make you believe in yourself, that no matter how deep those wounds, they can be healed, they don’t have to dictate your life forever, and that they don’t reflect who you truly are.

For most of my career as an athlete I ran. I ran from myself, I ran from my emotions, I ran from those who loved me the most, and I ran myself into self-destruction.

I overcame my pain and my fears because I wanted to be a better me. I wanted to be happy, and I didn’t want this darkness that was plaguing me and destroying my life. Pain that almost cost me my life when I was 15, sad and wanting to end it with a box of panadol.

It takes courage, patience and a whole lot of forgiveness to overcome your demons and be the “beautiful girl” in the room with no other side of you to hide.

If you have been abused, assaulted, tormented and/or neglected, realise that your healed pain will someday be used to help someone else overcome theirs

Those with the deepest wounds always make the best healers and teachers.